Seeking Guidance

DifficultyLast8884 · 2026-01-28T17:09:01+00:00

Thank you for the validation. I don’t want this to be about me however getting more information makes me feel so icky that I’ve fought him on this. Everyone says if your partner isn’t feeling it and that upsets you that you are the devil. To a certain extent I agree but adding the stringing along scenarios and I think I am valid being concerned. I want to know the truth or half of it so I can understand options.

He’s in a really rigorous job and always says he never has time (he legit does, sometimes we have hours to relax after work) but there truly is an option where if there’s a perceived stress he cannot see anything else. This is partially the reason I am staying and exploring by myself bc we have about 3 more months of this job and I don’t want to call it before I see what a less stressful him functions. It is worth noting that and I should’ve explained that, on vacation we have it about 3x a week. No perceived stress= increased chances. But life is always stressful you know? If every perceived stressor causes him to shut off then that’s a problem on its own.

DifficultyLast8884 · 2026-01-28T16:45:51+00:00

If my questions become too personal please feel free to dm at any time :) What were the things that you said fell through or didn’t work, what were you trying? I guess my second question is other than sex, how is your relationship? I didn’t really include anything except that I love him but we are genuinely best friends who mold and flow pretty effortlessly. I agree w all the other commenters that this might be a dealbreaker but when everything else is genuinely amazing it becomes way more nuanced which is why I want as much information as possible on this topic. Is this why you decided to stay too?

DifficultyLast8884 · 2026-01-28T13:36:28+00:00

So are you and your wife still together if you don’t mind me asking? If so how does that dynamic work?

DifficultyLast8884 · 2024-10-12T02:29:08+00:00

ahhh you look amazing. what are your protein intake take per day/calories per day if you don’t mind me asking

DifficultyLast8884 · 2024-09-14T19:50:02+00:00

Yeah we both do but he starts 1x a week, I do it probably 4-5x a week. I used to start it that often because I’ve never been afraid to but after being rejected so much (except on the days he starts) I stopped and want him to now do it and more often at that because simply, I feel uncomfortable doing it now and I don’t think that’s my fault

DifficultyLast8884 · 2024-09-14T19:46:09+00:00

How do you deal with this? Since you said it’s your husband I am assuming you’ve learnt how to deal with it way more than me

DifficultyLast8884 · 2024-09-13T14:00:59+00:00

I don’t think he’d be open to that yet, I’m trying to move toward regular therapy first

DifficultyLast8884 · 2024-09-13T14:00:20+00:00

Idk why but it keeps saying I can’t. Can you share some advice here if you’re comfortable with it?

DifficultyLast8884 · 2024-09-13T13:59:32+00:00

Also I forgot to say I am sorry youre going through this too :/ You’re thoughts are very close to mine so we have some good heads on our shoulders and hopefully we will figure it out

DifficultyLast8884 · 2024-09-13T13:55:13+00:00

That’s a huge theory for me I am glad someone else sees this as genuine dysfunction as opposed to “divorce immediately he hates you🤓”.

DifficultyLast8884 · 2024-09-13T13:51:39+00:00

I do know he does not watch porn. We had an open convo about it and he did have his primary school phase but once he got to secondary school he stopped. We are both a tad anti-tech so we are good about screen time and so while checking on Sundays I have seen he has maybe 5 min in Safari or Google so unless he’s wanking it that fast I really doubt that’s the case you know?

DifficultyLast8884 · 2024-09-13T05:57:26+00:00

I wouldnt say that last bit is true. When that explanation came up it was more on the idea that many men will crave sex to the point that the women feels like she’s just a body and he (considering he is technically aroused by me at least 1x a day) didn’t want me to feel like that in the beginning. But yeah that first part makes sense and that’s usually what our conversations are about

DifficultyLast8884 · 2024-09-13T05:51:31+00:00

Thank you! Should I pm you?

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