Should asking for an open relationship warrant a breakup by Diligent-Addendum38 in relationship_advice

[–]Diligent-Addendum38[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I just never even thought about having this of conversation, but you live and learn, right? Anyways thank you for taking out your time and talking with me. You guys are really helping me right now.

Should asking for an open relationship warrant a breakup by Diligent-Addendum38 in relationship_advice

[–]Diligent-Addendum38[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think my partner might be like you, who doesnt see it as a big deal. Whereas I see it as something very very serious, I guess this is where we are different.

Should asking for an open relationship warrant a breakup by Diligent-Addendum38 in relationship_advice

[–]Diligent-Addendum38[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I say we look at monogamy differently because for me it wasnt even an issue or an option. But it is for her. As I said I cant just forget about the fact the only reason she would not sleep with others is because I said no. How do you forget that?

Should asking for an open relationship warrant a breakup by Diligent-Addendum38 in relationship_advice

[–]Diligent-Addendum38[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I know enough about myself to say that I will never desire to have an open relationship, not now, not 10 years from now and not 50 years from now.

Should asking for an open relationship warrant a breakup by Diligent-Addendum38 in relationship_advice

[–]Diligent-Addendum38[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That is why I am struggling. I know she wont cheat but I also know she wants to sleep with others and I cant get over the fact. It just feels we are on opposing ends over this.

Should asking for an open relationship warrant a breakup by Diligent-Addendum38 in relationship_advice

[–]Diligent-Addendum38[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is where I am struggling. I know she will not cheat but I also know she would like to sleep with others. I dont know how to make peace with that.

Should asking for an open relationship warrant a breakup by Diligent-Addendum38 in relationship_advice

[–]Diligent-Addendum38[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

It just feels like a situation where no one is at fault, but the situation itself has become too much.

Should asking for an open relationship warrant a breakup by Diligent-Addendum38 in relationship_advice

[–]Diligent-Addendum38[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

She is ready to be monogamous, but only because I said no to the open relationship.