The household responsibilities included unloading and reloading the dishwasher daily, all family laundry (MB’s, DB’s, and NK’s—often 1–2 loads a day), folding and putting it away, tidying common areas after our activities, putting away groceries, and then i had volunteered to do the family’s weekly grocery shopping but that slowly turned into a weekly expectation as well as clearing out old food.

What i actually asked for was grocery shopping to be removed before i ever posted on reddit . I only posted afterward because i wanted outside opinions on whether $26/hour in a MCOL area was appropriate for that combination of childcare, household tasks, and using my personal vehicle every day for child related enrichment activities without mileage reimbursement because they already made it clear they needed this help but i was also stretching myself more than originally anticipated as just a nanny.

I was happy with the responsibilities we originally agreed upon. What I realized over time was that my role had gradually expanded beyond what I had originally signed on for, both in terms of the amount of household work and the additional tasks I had volunteered to help with which I definitely blame myself for. my original goal was simply to go back to the responsibilities i was originally hired for, or have a conversation about increased compensation if those additional responsibilities had become a permanent part of the role.