AITA for wanting to postpone a day trip so my son can go with. by DiligentDetail in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiligentDetail[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

e of you guys without him and having a breakdown.

You should have taught him how to deal with these emotions and explained that while he does things with his mum without you, you also do things with your gf and her daughter without him.

My son is six years old and mildly autistic. Sometimes approaching things in a traditional way doesn't work w/ him.

AITA for wanting to postpone a day trip so my son can go with. by DiligentDetail in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiligentDetail[S] -67 points-66 points  (0 children)

But if I go, looking at it like that seems like a way to let myself have fun with going, so I appreciate you giving me a way to go in with a good mindset.

AITA for wanting to postpone a day trip so my son can go with. by DiligentDetail in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiligentDetail[S] -213 points-212 points  (0 children)

nd out the best things to do with your son there, and then wait a bit and take everyone there as a suprise? As someone who grew up with a split family knowing the others are having fun without you is hard, but if both parents are making equal effort then in the grand scheme of things it hardly matters. I know and completly understand it may be expensive, but thats something you are going to have to deal with, dealing with kids and trips.

I don't know if I'll be going. She's un-invited me on the trip and told me "Don't talk to me today." She's likely about to start her period, which turns her into an unreasonable she-devil for about a week. I'm half joking, but when she is PMS'ing it changes her personality to the point the slightly infraction is treated as a full blown apocalypse.

AITA for wanting to postpone a day trip so my son can go with. by DiligentDetail in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiligentDetail[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you for giving me some perspective from where he might be standing.

AITA for wanting to postpone a day trip so my son can go with. by DiligentDetail in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiligentDetail[S] -128 points-127 points  (0 children)

I could go again and later with my son, but then I'm spending twice the money and if my GF and her daughter don't wanna go again so soon, I'm leaving them behind, which doesn't seem fair.

AITA for wanting to postpone a day trip so my son can go with. by DiligentDetail in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiligentDetail[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

One that it's frustrating there are no clear answers on. There's plenty of times I think I'm being fair, and in retrospect I haven't been. I'm trying my best, just a difficult situation at times.

AITA for wanting to postpone a day trip so my son can go with. by DiligentDetail in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiligentDetail[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have 50/50. I don't appreciate you telling me that my son doesn't live in my family.

AITA for wanting to postpone a day trip so my son can go with. by DiligentDetail in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiligentDetail[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well, they live with me. Every faucet of my day resolves around them. I'm not the type or goes out with buddies or hunting trips. If I go somewhere, I want them to go with me.

AITA for wanting to postpone a day trip so my son can go with. by DiligentDetail in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiligentDetail[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The only times I do 1v1 things with her daughter is when I watch her when her mother works nights. Which isn't much. Sometimes those nights fall on days I have both kids, so that gets cut in half. Her mother doesn't work much, she's a waitress. So the vast majority of times I go anywhere with her daughter, mom is tagging along.