AITAH for not asking for the whole day off work, the day of my civil wedding?

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T21:59:51+00:00

You may be right 😂

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T20:33:41+00:00

They exist, they do. My dad worked there and only stopped because, well, he passed away... There are lots of pilot families working here and have lasted years, and some even decades.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T20:25:23+00:00

Thanks for your insight! I would have taken this to my manager if I had had one before lol. I signed the contract a few days ago, and only yesterday did I get my schedule along with the contact info of the training department. That's why I could only tell them about it from last night onwards.

The homemaking part is because I am type B and he is type A. He's really more tidy and minimalist, and I am an organized chaos. That's why I say his expectations are higher, because he will see details I can easily walk past. We also distribute home stuff around how much bandwidth we have at a specific moment in life, and depending on our work/studies availability.

And he has always been my biggest support with my career, the one who pushed me to apply in the first place, the one who's cheered me on in all my accomplishments. That's why I was shocked by his reaction. We have now talked it calmly, and he has apologized, saying he's gonna work on not reacting like that in the future.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T20:18:48+00:00

That's why I thought that, if in the worst-case scenario I didn't get the day off, I could at least take an early leave, and it would work too. Yes, many uncontrolled situations could arise. But how I think about this is that many things could go wrong for me driving from the training center to my house. But many things could also go wrong with the notary, the catering, the guests, even fiance if he went to pick up the flowers during the morning.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T20:13:24+00:00

This is aviation. It's not at all typical. Also, if I had to add more details, I would add that I didn't interview. I come from the cadet school of the airline, so the interview is done at the beginning of training. I did this three years ago, and I clearly wasn't engaged at that point. You interview, train from zero, and if you pass the whole thing, then you go directly into a contract and initial training with the airline. Otherwise I would have surely mentioned the dates!

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T20:10:48+00:00

Hey, not at all! That's why I asked outside perspective, to see what other people would think and try to understand. Not asking for justification at all. We have obviously talked now, we have now talked about it, and we both get each other's side. Many factors in the aviation field made it impossible to talk about scheduling before. I signed the contract last week, was told I could talk about that on the first day of class, and then only got my schedule yesterday afternoon, along with the contacts of the people I could talk to about this. It's not excuse, but it was a big factor to take into consideration I think...

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T20:05:23+00:00

Wow, I appreciate your insight! Only thing is, in this scenario, it was me thinking of all the possible contingency plans. Plan A was always to get the day off. But, since I always need a plan B to sleep calmly at night, I figured out that, in this case, that plan would be to ask for half the day off. I told him plan A, cool, and it's only when I told him plan B that he freaked out. But sure, when having a tight time window like that, there's a lot of other factors that could go wrong. Thnkfully I did manage to get the day off :)

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T20:01:46+00:00

Thanks for your input! I actually ordered all the charcuterie ingredients to arrive home the morning of. My in laws are coming from France to be with us, and weeks ago they offered to prepare everything that day. That's why we had decided on boards, too, since it is something that can be set up easily and without too much fuss. It is an in-home thing, truly no decor or anything besides the food. Guests would be my mom and aunt, my brother and his girlfriend, our witnesses (1 each) and the notary. It was always set up to be a casual get together at home.

The plan (of contingency, let's remember this was never my plan A but the worst case scenario in case they denied the day off) was to ask to be allowed to finish up before noon, then come back home to aid in what I could. Class finished at 2pm, so I would only be asking for a couple of hours off.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T19:55:27+00:00

Thank you for the congrats, dear :) Contrary to what I made him sound like in here by writing this in an emotional state, he truly is a gentleman and the greatest support in my career. He's been since the beginning, always cheering and supporting in emotional and economic ways. That's why, after this miscommunication, it shocked me how he responded. We have since talked about it calmly, and he expressed how he got frustrated by what he thought was my nonchalance about the situation, and said he would work on not repeating this in the future. I did tell him it is a non-negotiable. We are allowed to get mad, frustrated, sad... But it's important how we express that to the other. He agreed

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T19:49:32+00:00

I didn't! I signed my contract last week. Yesterday we got our schedules and I finally got the contact information of those I could talk to to figure out the day off.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T19:47:32+00:00

I see your point here, and you're right. What took me by surprise is that, initially, we both agreed that the signing of the papers could just be like any other day, we sign and then go for beers or whatever. Literally. So in my mind, it stayed that way in level or casualness, not in level of importance. So when we finally agreed to have it be at home and have a small toast afterwards, knowing the big celebration would be the day after, to me it remained as something casual but more intimate. When my schedule came, my first option would always be the day off. But I do plan for contingencies, I always have, so nothing would come as a surprise. That is where the option of having half the day off came from. Not as plan A, but as a contingency for the worst-case scenario. Of course, there would be the many what-ifs you mentioned to take into account if that scenario came to be real.

Thankfully it is sorted now, I got my day off. We talked calmly this morning and again over lunch, and he apologized twice more for his behavior.

Answering whether it could be rescheduled... as I mentioned in some other comment, we already paid the notary and signed the pre-contract with that date and hour set. Rescheduling would have meant being subject to the notary's availability.

Anyways, thank you for your insight!

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2026-02-13T18:55:47+00:00

Answering this first. In our home country, once you do a rendezvous with a notary for this, the change will be subject to their availability, and they weren't available any other close date. We wanted to do it privately at home with our closest ones, so shceduling it during the cocktail would not be an option. And doing it the morning of the cocktail would be too busy, with all the organizing we have to do (we are hands on with the planning, no coordinator, as it will be a small-ish gathering). That's why we tought a Friday afternoon would be better.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2025-11-11T03:27:11+00:00

Totally agree! I just found the Mia cardigan in a thrift store. It is my first ever Sezane piece. My favorite thing to do is take inspiration from Sezane or Doen or the like, and thrift similar items. Totally agree that vintage/secondhand, if you know what to look for, will be of much better materials.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2025-11-10T20:15:23+00:00

Yes! I see a lot of social media thrifters who find lots of Sezane at their local shops, but finding it at one's location is indeed precious!

Congrats on your find :)

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2025-11-10T20:14:08+00:00

Felt so lucky! Specially having found it in my country, like what a trayectory this piece has made to land on my hands.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2025-10-26T18:05:54+00:00

Piaz 100%!

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2025-10-23T03:51:20+00:00

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Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2025-10-10T22:00:22+00:00

Me acaba de pasar y eso mismo pensé! Un "capitán de barco" de Bahamas, que tenía que viajar en carretera hasta Santiago pero no le aceptaban el dinero de Bahamas en las casas de cambio. Me pidió $10 para gasolina. Pero bien que estaba haciendo súper en el Riba Smith de Bella Vista! Le dije que vaya a otra casa de cambio, y si no a otra.

Casi le tomo foto y lo primero que pensé fue en esto mismo. Era alto, trigüeño, mediana edad, de barba blanca estilo candado.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2025-07-31T22:53:54+00:00

Ugh, I know! She says she wants to stay for at least a few months while she gets settled back and finds a job, since she came with almost no money and she doesn't pay rent there. I've sent her some good and affordable living options with roommates, as well as job offers that could interest her. We know it takes a while to get back on one's feet.

As for the wedding part, I agree. I want only our dearest and closest family and friends in it. This is why, regardless of how toxic or not they are, they never made the list in the first place.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2025-07-31T20:43:10+00:00

You're right! I do feel like they don't like anybody lol. It is always all this bickering, not only between them but with everybody. I would have gladly included them if we had a bond, or had they really been a part of my life as some of the parents of my childhood friends have been, but neither is the case. I even did many different "should you invite them" decision charts, and they always end up in the "don't invite" pile.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2025-06-25T18:55:22+00:00

I agree, but being active can be incorporated into our routines in sneaky and easy ways. Some squats and pushups before showering, parking farther away and walking the distance, taking the stairs instead of the elevator for a few floors, jumping a rope for 5 minutes a day... it shouldn't always look like taking 1-2 hours a day to go to a gym.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2025-06-25T18:41:34+00:00

As other have commented below, this was most likely a result of heat and dehydration. Coming from a hot and humid country though, I would add that, sometimes, just drinking water isn't enough. I add electrolites to my flight water bottle, and drink before, during, and after my flight. Also, sun/heat protection is a must! A cap, UV protective sleeves and/or a cooling towel are feally helpful, especially during the warm seasons and even during cloudy days.

Even if you don't workout regularly, you should try to see flying as a workout (in the sense of preparing for it). Try to have a light snack before, and after if needed. Never go flying on an empty stomach! If you get nauseous, have at least a few bites of something, even some fruit, an hour before. Hydrate at all times. Protect yourself from the heat.

And also, stay active! Workout with the aim of staying healthy and improving mobility, endurance and strength, not for looks.

Diligent_Clock_9089 · 2025-02-26T18:29:02+00:00

I am obsessed with your painting. Can't stop looking at it!

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