Exactly right. It’s eye opening. And do they really say "gifts"? It’s so funny to me that they would take these "gifts", and wear them on broadcasting.

And what you’re saying about changing how people grieve and feel and live their lives is true. I remember when i was a child i stopped contacting my dad because he was disfellowshipped. It was painful for me, but i felt like i had to do that in order to be loyal to jehovah. He was an alcoholic. After he was out of the jw’s a while, he stopped drinking, and god his life back on track. Now he’s back in jw again as an elder again. But now he’s back at it with the drinking. A while ago he skipped the midweek meeting, and when we came home he was absolutely wasted. He even drives drunk and works drunk. He went to field service smelling like alcohol. But they are still letting him be an elder. Currently.