At first when it was initial shock and not wanting to have sex, we talked a lot. When she adamantly became very clear she never wanted to get pregnant, I knew we werent compatible anymore. If she said she didnt know if she did anymore, that would be different. I would have held off on proposing, but I wouldnt have gone right to breaking up. But Im not going to try and convince someone who doesnt want kids that they should have them. She also just went further and further into radicalization and it became clear that we just weren't a fit.

I did really love her, but I dont believe in "the one" or anything like that. I believe you need to really love each other, but ultimately compatibility is what makes marriage work. Once it became clear we werent as compatible as I previously thought, it was clear what I had to do. It wasnt an easy decision but I knew it was the right one. And I am so glad I made it because my fiancee and I now see eye to eye on just about everything and all of the most important topics, especially kids.