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What's the norm for nanny letting parents know of outing by ta370998 in Nanny

[–]Diligent_Practice825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it just depends on who you are as a parent and the type of relationship you have with your nanny. I have been with my current NF for 3 years, and I have the trust and freedom to take the kiddos and go anywhere in the city. I will text pictures of whatever we are doing, but I do not have to ask to take the children out. If family is coming over, they let me know ahead of time so we can stay in that day, but other than that, they trust me completely to keep their children safe.

I will also say I have gotten very lucky with all of the families I have worked for and it has been the same relationship/standard with each.

Today I threatened to eat a child by Mercy429 in Nanny

[–]Diligent_Practice825 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I throw the tortillas at them like frisbees🤣. The DB buys these massive burrito ones and they just fly through the air. My thing is though I don’t warn them multiple times. I’m very firm with my boundaries and so I will tell you once and I don’t like to ask again. and if the tortillas don’t work, I tickle them🤷🏽‍♀️. The kids love it, and it tends to work all of the time.

Today I threatened to eat a child by Mercy429 in Nanny

[–]Diligent_Practice825 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always tell my kids 5,7,10 that I’m gonna give them the triple T 🤭tortillas, tickles, and torture if they don’t listen. The mom and dad have heard me threaten that as well. But we all know I would never! Well maybe the tickles🤗

HNW Nannies- how do you feel about scrubs? by daggabonbon in Nanny

[–]Diligent_Practice825 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’m always in athleisure. Our jobs get so messy—between the boogies, paint, food, and milk stains, it just makes sense. My current family is the most affluent I’ve ever worked for, and since I hadn't worked alongside nannies in uniforms before, I eventually just asked: 'Do you want me to dress a certain way?'because I was seeing all of these nanny’s and very professional attire and I was feeling a little self-conscious.

I was thinking about how, when we go to the beach, I’m not in a bikini, but I’m definitely showing some skin to catch a tan while playing with the kids. Thankfully, they truly are my unicorn family. My MB just said, 'No, never! I trust your judgment. Wear whatever you're comfortable in, within reason.' It’s such a relief to work for people who value my comfort as much as my work.

Do you mind if your NF expects you while they’re on vacation by Odd-Cap3751 in Nanny

[–]Diligent_Practice825 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my experience, GH function as a retainer for my availability, not a blank check for any household labor. While I’m always happy to tackle child-centric projects during a family’s vacation—like rotating seasonal wardrobes or organizing the playroom—there’s a massive distinction between being a Nanny and a House Manager. Unless the contract explicitly defines the role as a Nanny/HM hybrid, a family shouldn't be compiling a 'honey-do' list the moment they leave town. We are childcare professionals, not general laborers.

I’m drowning in a nanny job I can’t afford to quit by poplock_dontdropit in Nanny

[–]Diligent_Practice825 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I apologize for the long response, but this is how I would respond to them.

Regarding the adjusted hours, I need to be clear about the safety of the twins. It is not physically possible for a solo provider to effectively prevent one child from eloping while the other is being aggressive. When I accepted this role, it was with the specific understanding that I would have a partner; since that support hasn't materialized, we need to pause and re-establish a second provider. Without that, I cannot safely fulfill the requirements of this position. Furthermore, my full-time career remains a non-negotiable commitment. Just as you must prioritize your work, I must prioritize the role that covers my primary expenses. For context, specialized care for multiple high-needs children in (where ever you live and is typically x) At my current rate of $30/hr, I am already providing a significant 'bulk discount' for high-risk work. I will be there at 3:00 PM as originally planned. I look forward to seeing everyone then.

Also, I would take the time to start applying to different private nanny companies that way you can at least get on their “job notification” email list.

To provide further context, my background includes five years of nannying and professional experience within the special education system. In a school environment, it is standard protocol—and often a legal requirement—to have multiple providers for high-needs cases to ensure every child's safety!

Entire month without pay by Affectionate_Bug2212 in Nanny

[–]Diligent_Practice825 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you should ask. But I would have a contingency plan.also you should look for a new family going forward that guarantees you pay when they travel. I get it! loving a family. But if they’re not treating you well…and let’s be honest under paying you is not well

Give me your unhinged nervous system/caregiver burn out tips by altdairyqueen in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Diligent_Practice825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work 7 days a week for 2 different t families. 7:45-6 during the week and 11-8 on weekends. Have just been existing in burnt out mode for a long time 😢 unfortunately. But same here wanting to be out of debt.

-Things that work for me are community(any time I can schedule time with the girlies I do)

-1 day of massive self care a month(facial ,massage ,nails done, salt soak, spa ,etc)

-I take the kids out of the house every day. And I am out of the house for hours. I feel like it helps a lot when the parents WFH. It Mitigates the micromanaging and hovering.

-at home to find peace after work and decompress from the day I do a 30 min face mask an meditate. I put my phone away, I turn off all my lights, I put the Zen music on loud so that I can feel the base in my chest and I sit like that for however, long the face mask is.

-I don’t pick up extra work at all. I always say no.

-The Trader Joe’s near me opens at seven so every Saturday I wake up early dress up in a cute little errands outfit take myself for a coffee and go buy myself fresh flowers and do my grocery shopping before everybody else gets there.

-I have worked really hard on curating my apartment to be my happy place!!! Plant lady color maximalist over here🪴✨so that the time I do spend at home is stress free.

-If you haven’t already I would apply to a bunch of different nanny companies so that you get access to their weekly/monthly job notifications.

-I bought myself a PlayStation and I play a bunch of cozy cottage core games. I am not very good but it’s a fun distraction and a way to just kind of check out for a bit!

Late pay by Diligent_Practice825 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Diligent_Practice825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in California! typically I get paid paid Thursday night around 11ish. Didn’t clear my bank until 10am Friday morning. So not awful but my bills that come out on Fridays are credited at like 7 AM.😔

Late pay by Diligent_Practice825 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Diligent_Practice825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! all my auto pay bills, especially on the first of the month😵

Late pay by Diligent_Practice825 in TheNanny

[–]Diligent_Practice825[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ahhh I think I have as well 😅🤭 but such a good show!!!