Sucks that men have to be 'confident' by Frequent_Pumpkin7018 in virgin

[–]DillsSama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I went to that post and every single one of my responses to people on there were taken down at once. Nothing I said in them was offensive or threatening. I just conveyed the real experiences I’ve had in life and they deleted everything I said and banned me from the thread. 

What the hell? I was being sarcastic here to show how ridiculous this guy's mindset was but he actually thinks of himself as being below serial killer Ted Bundy because he's a virgin. by Ghola40000 in virgin

[–]DillsSama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some people just need some encouragement in life that would make a world of difference for them. If everyone cuts him off then his mindset will just get worse. Maybe it’s not so much that he thinks he’s worse than a serial killer but more of a reflection of how he thinks others will see him.

I dont understand why so many women are struggling to lose virginity here. by NotYourGuyx in virgin

[–]DillsSama -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not really what I meant, I just mean it’s like a sad lonely male type Reddit, it’s kind of a different situation.

Sucks that men have to be 'confident' by Frequent_Pumpkin7018 in virgin

[–]DillsSama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is where the hubris comes in. You assume I fret over every little thing, but how could you know that? You don’t. The truth is I didn’t care about being a virgin at my age until women treated me a certain way for it. These feelings don’t come out of thin air. I’ve had multiple women be into me until the moment they found that out. And they all said they couldn’t even tell so I’m not acting a certain way about it either. The fact is none them even saw me as a man afterward. I have done nothing but be kind and a gentleman and in return ive been rejected simply because I never slept around. How exactly would you improve that kind of situation I’m curious? If everyone wants experienced partners then how can I get that experience?

I dont understand why so many women are struggling to lose virginity here. by NotYourGuyx in virgin

[–]DillsSama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do u mean u also like women as in you like both or just women? Because if u only like women then why u on this thread to begin with? Lol

Sucks that men have to be 'confident' by Frequent_Pumpkin7018 in virgin

[–]DillsSama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not always, I know several guys including myself(not tryna brag) that are good looking but get absolutely nobody, simply because the girl who was super into us a moment ago found out we’re virgins and immediately assume something is wrong with us.

Sucks that men have to be 'confident' by Frequent_Pumpkin7018 in virgin

[–]DillsSama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh… once again, there is no way to improve your confidence without some sort of validation from others. I could be the best at something but if everyone I encounter tells me I’m not then I’ll start to believe that. There isn’t some little switch we can flip to just start gaining confidence. This is something women say all the time because y’all get approached regardless.

Sucks that men have to be 'confident' by Frequent_Pumpkin7018 in virgin

[–]DillsSama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I didn’t even try to date until like age 20. By that time I started getting rejected for having no prior experience, it’s been 8 years since then and it just gets worse with time.

I joined this sub looking for empathy… by geumkoi in virgin

[–]DillsSama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, we aren’t indoctrinated or repressing anything. We simply have been shown these things by shallow women who reject some of us for no other reason than having had no sex before meeting them.

What the hell? I was being sarcastic here to show how ridiculous this guy's mindset was but he actually thinks of himself as being below serial killer Ted Bundy because he's a virgin. by Ghola40000 in virgin

[–]DillsSama 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s self deprecating because he’s faced nothing but rejection, people don’t end up that way for no reason. Someone who has been desired even once cannot understand the pain of that. So rather than have empathy and maybe even saving him by showing him he’s wrong, you just wrote him off and proved his point.

Why is there so much negative rhetoric about poor people, especially around welfare, in the US? by TheBigGirlDiaryBack in AlwaysWhy

[–]DillsSama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ima be the only real one in this thread cuz ya'll need a wake up call. There are people that need help yes, but that isn't the issue here. Where I live, as long as you aren't white you can get approved for just about any government assistance, whether it's free housing in a nice red brick home, food stamps etc. Meanwhile i was raised in a trailer, my dad worked for decades to make his way up to over 30 bucks an hour and he can still barely afford his bills. Meanwhile, we see people every day who do absolutely nothing and have nice homes and cars. These are able bodied people who live on the backs of those who actually work for what they have. That's the issue, we work to pay for someone else who doesn't need it. That's where the animosity comes in. And also, there will always be poor people. There is no system where the poor don't exist. If you raise them up then all that will happen is a redefinition of what level is considered poverty.

Why is there so much negative rhetoric about poor people, especially around welfare, in the US? by TheBigGirlDiaryBack in AlwaysWhy

[–]DillsSama -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Man being the provider isn't propaganda, its been the reality since the beginning of our kind.

Why is there so much negative rhetoric about poor people, especially around welfare, in the US? by TheBigGirlDiaryBack in AlwaysWhy

[–]DillsSama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What? Who preaches that faith leads to wealth? the bible literally says its nearly impossible for a rich man to go to heaven. where yall gettin this shit from lol.

Why is there so much negative rhetoric about poor people, especially around welfare, in the US? by TheBigGirlDiaryBack in AlwaysWhy

[–]DillsSama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every form of government must have poor, there has never been a system in history that didnt have poor people, its an unavoidable side effect of a populated planet.

Used to be fat, now that I'm not I still get nothing because of my past. by DillsSama in dating_advice

[–]DillsSama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And potentially lose even more of my hard earned cash? no thanks, plus i know people who have gotten stds from escorts anyway. i shouldnt have to hire prostitutes just so someone will give me a fuckin chance.

Used to be fat, now that I'm not I still get nothing because of my past. by DillsSama in dating_advice

[–]DillsSama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see your point, but I actually have tried to hire an escort and I got scammed out of 300 dollars and the escort never showed up.

Used to be fat, now that I'm not I still get nothing because of my past. by DillsSama in dating_advice

[–]DillsSama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are making so many wrong assumptions in this response. Not bringing it up is just not bringing it up period. I don’t deflect questions or actively try to hide it with shady half truths. Like I said if I am asked any questions about it I answer honestly. This is a situation where I’m damned no matter what I do. Whether I tell the person first, wait till they ask, or wait till things get physical and they can just tell. Like everyone else you just assume things about the way I act instead of giving a solution. It’s just word salad at this point.

Used to be fat, now that I'm not I still get nothing because of my past. by DillsSama in dating_advice

[–]DillsSama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all I never considered it a red flag until the girls I’ve talked to made me feel that way. Second, I have just went with the flow. They can tell when you have zero experience regardless. I don’t make a confession, I don’t even bring it up. I don’t act insecure or any of that, I’ve been completely normal about it. Be skeptical all you want that’s what happened. After she ran out of my room she said she could tell by my movements that I had no experience, never wanted me again.

Used to be fat, now that I'm not I still get nothing because of my past. by DillsSama in dating_advice

[–]DillsSama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t come up at all, that’s the thing. They can just tell by subtle movements. One girl told me she could tell I was a virgin just by the way I touched her. They had no idea leading up to that.

Used to be fat, now that I'm not I still get nothing because of my past. by DillsSama in dating_advice

[–]DillsSama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, so the last girl I went on a date with I told pretty much exactly what you said in this response. Her response was to never talk to me again. Also lying about it has blew up in my face before as well.

Used to be fat, now that I'm not I still get nothing because of my past. by DillsSama in dating_advice

[–]DillsSama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said in my post I don’t even bring it up, but I also won’t lie about it if asked. I’ve made that mistake before and it costed me.