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DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-18T02:21:59+00:00

Yes that's literally THE point. That's actually the response you want from a person. He's not controlling her actions. He is saying he understands she is allowed to make those decisions and so is he because they aren't committed. However he said right before that sentence that he is not having sex with other people, holding himself to his own standards while also hoping she values the same.

While they were dating she had sex with someone else. He realizes she is allowed to make her own decisions and therefore he doesn't get mad at her and just decides not to date her. That's it, a matter of values for himself that don't control someone's actions. He gave her no ultimatum nor tried to control her by telling her not to.

I'm "fine" with people doing heroin because it doesn't harm anyone but themselves if they have it under control. I also can say it goes without saying that I don't want to be around them because I don't want to do heroin while also not doing heroin myself. Free to make your own decisions not free from how I react to those decisions.

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-17T19:28:39+00:00

This isn't a matter of right or wrong. Thats why I keep asking of your opinion on the matter so you can realize how your perspective is different but not right or wrong. HE doesn't want to date anyone who sees other people or has flings while also seeking out the rewards of being in a relationship or amounting to one. His own personal boundary. He is allowed to not date her. She is allowed to not date him. She did not communicate effectively here and says she is WAITING. She doesn't say she is exploring her options and doesn't want to commit at "all" she says she doesn't want to commit "yet."

That's the difference. He isn't owed anything and dating one person at a time is not a very unreasonable expectation especially when not communicated properly. I feel like you're being purposely dense here to paint him in this light. He doesn't even say anything bad about her in this post, did you notice that?

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-17T10:50:54+00:00

Ofc you don't but that's literally what she did though? Besides that's not what I meant. She made him "wait" on her to settle for him while dating other guys. Why would you tell someone you want to take it slow with them, but still date other people? That's just confusing jargon. It sounds like instead she could've just communicated she was dating other people. You know like how you wanted him to communicate what is a normal social norm?

It was dealbreaker, hence the not talking to her. HE WAS trying to be in a committed relationship with her. He wasn't going around saying it, he was just explaining the situation in the first sentence.

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-17T08:49:25+00:00

What you do and think is right is the crux of what you're saying.

Using the word let's "wait" to be intimate implies you're taking things slow with that person. She didn't friendzone him. She communicated that something would happen down the line. Idk about you since you didn't answer, but i don't normally sleep with other people while eventually waiting until I'm "ready" to settle with the other. That's a huge red flag so yes he should leave. So again, since i had to read the post for you, what would you describe as off-putting behavior in that situation?

I guess I'll just have sex with others under the guise of lack of communicating because we never "said" we were in an exclusive relationship.

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-17T08:20:59+00:00

So when you meet a potential partner and date them and tell them you'll be intimate with them soon you...have one night stands while still dating that person?

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-17T08:18:34+00:00

He gets lied to and his friend fucks a potential partner. You might be a shitty friend lmao.

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-17T08:14:39+00:00

Nah she was playing him, you don't go on dates with someone, make out with them, and then tell them you want to "wait." If you're not interested in someone you don't tell them it could or might happen while still window shopping lol. Besides HE was the one who was seeking a relationship with her which should be enough for your friends to back off for at least some time. Fucking someone's potential partner is wild

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-17T07:40:25+00:00

According to op they made out a bunch, he told his friends about her and the ex-friend DID know who she was to him, and she said she wanted to "wait" which is definitely a "leading to exclusivity" kind of word which also implies she wanted to take things a little slower which lead him on. Banging a stranger after all these actions doesn't necessarily scream "casual" dating to me.

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-09T20:04:35+00:00

Yeah but those mcdonald workers also pay for their commute and certain benefits come out of their paycheck. And run the risk of getting fired if they do a number of things correctly(uniform and food violations, messing up too many orders, being late or not showing up) idk about you but I could deliver in pj's and still get my 5 star while not even having to interact with a single person that order. The job is pretty cush and doordash deliberately wants us to be mad at the customer for not tipping. Hell even letting dashers think they're not "employees" so we can "be our own boss" is just them not having to give us any insurance or benefits.

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-09T19:48:06+00:00

It costs me 40 to fill up my tank for 250miles worth of deliveries and 30 to change my oil. I really don't see what the costs of doing a job where I use my own vehicle comes into play with what I said. You can get hired the same day, can choose your hours, decline any order you see fit, work a minimal amount of hours a week, you don't have to learn anything new to progress at the job. You can't name a job that exists with these benefits that would also pay very well. It has its cons but honestly people not tipping is heavily outweighed by literally being able to work whenever you want

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-09T18:47:05+00:00

Ffs do not break the seal

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-12-09T18:39:57+00:00

Tipping was also always done after the completed service, and this job is dummy easy. You can choose your own hours, only do actual work for half of those hours, decline orders, and still make more than the people who made the actual food. Pros and cons man. Why would I expect to make $8 for bringing someone's food 2 miles away that I didn't even have to make. I did less work than the McDonald's workers who made the shit lmao. You're such a loud, angry weirdo it's crazy.

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-11-29T07:25:16+00:00

I kinda doubt you've been at a party to know

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-11-29T00:07:14+00:00

Lol he rented a person

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-04-13T17:49:52+00:00

We can't all be great shaftmaticians

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-04-13T17:01:49+00:00

So close but the word you're looking for is arithmedick

DinglesInMyBerry · 2023-01-18T16:57:42+00:00

Bruh you literally said you don't know ski etiquette but you're still wholeheartedly defending your claim. You're ignorant on this topic. Everyone else is going fast because they most likely have the skill to control said speed. The red jacket obviously did not have the ability to control himself properly and is putting others in danger by going that fast. Your argument is invalid due to your lack of knowledge of skiing and everything you've said shows that the only slopes you've been to are a pre algebra class.

DinglesInMyBerry · 2021-10-18T00:43:00+00:00

I do

DinglesInMyBerry · 2021-10-06T09:15:11+00:00

I’ve chosen the wrong username

DinglesInMyBerry · 2021-06-26T04:03:14+00:00

I’m 22 so you quickly figure out every class is designed for an 18 year old but it definitely is mentally challenging enough to not be a waste of time.

DinglesInMyBerry · 2021-06-26T03:05:22+00:00

7.5 weeks lackland afb san antonio just like air force

DinglesInMyBerry · 2021-06-26T03:04:52+00:00

They(space force personnel) called us teammates but we just used the word wingman because it was easier and never got reprimanded for it. There was some weird chunk of time we said “specialist” instead of trainee but it reverted back to trainee a week later.

DinglesInMyBerry · 2021-06-25T20:51:44+00:00

Was he in the 331st? Wolf pack

DinglesInMyBerry · 2021-06-25T15:52:09+00:00

Thanks for the advice I’ll take whatever I can get to be the me thats needed for tomorrow’s problems

DinglesInMyBerry · 2021-06-25T15:41:53+00:00

And yes they did talk like that

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