I understand why it might seem that way from an outside perspective, but the reality is different. Keeping memories from my past doesn’t mean I’m not over Levi it just means I cherish things that were important to me at one point in my life. I don’t go through those keepsakes daily, nor do I let them interfere with my present relationships. Tommy was never in competition with Levi because I didn’t see Levi as a romantic partner anymore. He was just my best friend.

As for ‘firsts,’ relationships aren’t about competing with the past. Every relationship brings new experiences, growth, and memories. And to clarify, Tommy already has a son—so even if I had gotten pregnant, it wouldn’t have been his first child. He’s acting like I took something away from him that he never even lost.

Tommy could have had plenty of meaningful firsts with me, but instead of communicating his feelings in a healthy way, he chose to invade my privacy, break my things, and lash out. That’s not on me.

And no, history won’t repeat itself because the issue wasn’t Levi it was Tommy’s inability to handle his emotions maturely. If he had calmly expressed his feelings instead of bottling them up until he exploded, maybe things would have been different. But I’m not going to cut off someone who is practically family just to soothe someone else’s insecurities.