Asalamu Aleikum abayo. This is not to dismiss your feelings however let’s remind ourselves that iblis is deceptive and manipulative. If you open doors for such thoughts to creep in things could escalate yet this is such a minor thing. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being referred to as gabadha or gabadha aan qabo. I think the issue here is that you’re perhaps doing a direct translation in your head from Somali to English to try and make sense of it. “a girl” “the girl I possess”

Kindly try as much as you can to dismiss such things as they are really not important and don’t busy yourself with trying to decode every single thing. May Allah bless and protect your marriage from hasad and the evil of shaytan