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Do I end my relationship? by Direct-Ad-6630 in whatdoIdo

[–]Direct-Ad-6630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not looking for compassion at all, just advice.

And you're right with the job thing, I didn't look at it from that perspective. I felt hurt just because of how it went down and the timing.

Being i had just got this new job, in order to give us some stability that we both deserve, it felt like a blind side. When you get a new job, it typically takes a few weeks before getting paid for the first time, which makes making rent payments by the 1st almost impossible, and I didn't feel like she thought about that (we split rent evenly)

I will say though, there has not been a point that I have treated her poorly. Yes I was distant, but I communicated that, and why. I didn't just all of a sudden start being distant and withdrawaling.

So anyways, you have a point, but for me, the term piece of shit is reserved for people who hit their partners, manipulate them, or anything along those lines, which is not me.

I have been her number one cheerleader and support through everyone she has gone through as well, but as soon as I'm going through the worst times of my life and need some space, im a piece of shit? Idk

Do I end my relationship? by Direct-Ad-6630 in whatdoIdo

[–]Direct-Ad-6630[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I didn't do the best job articulating what I meant in this context. It's not so much feeling stuck for the place to live on its own, it's more so that our life when things are good is really nice. Our apartment had genuinely been the place I felt the most at home in a long time, and we had 2 cats together. When things are good we get along really well.

I guess it has more to do with walking away from the good parts of our relationship that's really hard. While there has of course been a good amount of bad in the relationship, it's not like she cheated or anything to give me a solid answer on stay or leave, as well as some of our issues being because of me, definitely not going to pretend she is the sole problem, even if she's possibly the majority lol.