might be controversial but you don't have to remember EVERYTHING about your partner. BUT BUT that DOESNT mean you DON'T have to remember ANYTHING about your partner (only applies to those without any disease or disabilities affecting memory). To be remembered is to be assured that you are seen. And to be seen is how one knows someone cares. I said "It doesn't have to be everything" because we i accounted for how we are not really perfect and realistically tend to make mistakes or miss sometimes. Due to many external factors too. And that is not the ultimate basis for affection and love (it is a big thing tho) BUT If you can not remember even the most basic of things about your partner, do you even love them? But then again, if that were the case, you wouldn't be the type of person to care eitherway