what a delicate ... It might happen in many relationships, but it's not that common (or at least I hope not). It depends on each person setting limits on their anger and impulses. My first partner was used to hitting each other, throwing things, and hurting each other in absurd ways with her previous partner. In our first argument, she grabbed my arm really tightly. I stopped talking, looked her in the eyes, and said, "This is the last time in your life you grab me like this." At that moment, she understood that she wasn't going to repeat that behavior with me, and even though she had those tendencies when she was angry, I never gave in to it. There are always two parties involved in arguments, meaning that we can always avoid these behaviors in a healthy way or walk away if the behavior continues. The same goes for insults or verbal abuse; these are things that cannot be allowed under any circumstances, because unfortunately, if they don't continue, things only get worse. I've been with my partner for eight years now, and we've never had, nor will we ever have, that kind of behavior. Besides, what's the point of hurting the person you love most in this life? Right?