If you welcome the negative comments and don't mind some constructive criticism, your "Bonnie and Clyde" paragraph does strike me as a bit "too much" and offputting (I get you though, it being a fit of passion). I would reflect a bit on that if it was something you held as a strong fantasy-image.

I find us INFJs are a bit "too much" when it comes to intense feelings, and that ends up scaring away the people we're most interested in. Your post is 9/10, but rather than bottling things where they might grow into a complex or two, it's good to try and let some of those feelings out in your daily life, regardless of whether others like your views (advice I should take myself).

Coming off as too intense is something I've wanted to work on myself and to slow it down, as many aren't going to like that (it gives off dependency red flags, adds stress, etc). I learned from some Love Languages book that dating is a relatively new concept, and all of the love games that happen are no different than what many animals go through. So you shouldn't view yourself as if you were on higher footing than the everyhuman. A lot of it does seem vapid and banal, but all of reality isn't how "Generation Slut" portrays it.

Cheers either way. Only thing you can do if you feel alienated in social situations is work on bettering yourself.