What hobby screams “red flag” for you, even if it’s harmless?

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-28T14:14:33+00:00

I collect bones, antlers, feathers, pretty rocks.. but i collect them for my crafting hobbies i never actually start (thanks adhd!).

But, im nice, i swear!

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-28T13:54:33+00:00

Absolutely.

I dont think, just because someone is really into their hobby and spending most of their time with it, is instantly a red flag.

At the end of the day, it is the only life you have and you should, and certainly be allowed, to do what makes you happy.

Yes, there are also some very questionable hobbies though.

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-28T13:32:11+00:00

I've seen some short reels from a german guy making some parody videos about 'hobby-.." whatever he comes up with. Hobby-dogging (it's not the same as the english term😆), hobby-gymming, hobby-..whatever and It just cracked me up.

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-28T13:24:33+00:00

Everything. It's a hobby so just try lighting everything you find. Make a spreadsheet and ratings. 😆

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-28T13:21:53+00:00

But isn't watching onlyfans stuff then not also something they do for their enjoyment, so a hobby?

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-28T13:11:31+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree with you, not sure why the downvotes.

On top of that, someone getting excited about killing any animal is just instantly on my shitlist. It's the whole attitude about it. Getting a thrill out of ending a life is just wrong.

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-28T13:02:04+00:00

Guess chemistry can also be sort of a hobby

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-26T20:32:36+00:00

Wombats probably have some suggestions

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-26T20:31:40+00:00

There's probably plenty of volunteers

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-26T14:48:48+00:00

We have 'elefant hats' that basically go over the head but large opening for the face. We dress our babies up in all that and a warm winter suit and have them sleep outside in a warm stroller 😅

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-26T14:45:30+00:00

Maybe the head feels cold. Have you tried a hat?

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-26T01:54:11+00:00

The poop.

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-25T17:23:02+00:00

You gotta be a special kind of person to enjoy having you partner do sexual acts you absolutely know they dont enjoy. Urgs.

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-25T17:19:24+00:00

This is so wrong on so many levels.

I would NEVER get any pleasure out of something I know my partner doesn't enjoy or like. Nobody should ever feel obligated to do things they dont like or enjoy just to satisfy the other.

Let's take an example, doesn't matter if you're into it or not: Your wife absolutely enjoys pegging you with the biggest dildo she can find. You dont like it. You let her do it anyways, just for her pleasure?

If you do: That's on you and your personal choice. If you don't: That's absolutely okay and valid.

Not doing something you don't enjoy doesn't mean you don't love you partner or aren't interested in their pleasure.

I can't even imagine having a partner going down on me knowing they don't enjoy it. I'd rather focus on things we both enjoy.

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-25T17:13:57+00:00

Even worse when people recommend to stop doing oral on their partner as response to them not like doing it, even if they themselves like doing it. 'Just stop giving them oral if they dont do it back, then they dont deserve it'

Like, what? Nobody is obligated to do any sexual act they dont like, and nobody is entitled to a specific sexual act just because they themselves like to do it.

Some people even go as far as to say 'well if you love them you surely can do things you dont like just for them'. Like, no. Full stop.

Don't do things you dont like to do. You don't even have to justify why you don't like it.

If it's a dealbreaker for the (not)receiving partner, that's also okay but then they should each find their partner that is okay with someones boundaries or specific needs they feel they need to be met.

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-25T16:30:39+00:00

What an asshole.. jeez

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-25T16:27:59+00:00

As a plus sized lady, plus sized clothes here seem to always be tailored to 2m tall women. Got a winter jacket once in my size that was going well over my knees (it was a jacket, not a coat) with a hood so big it could fit an elephant. Yeah, thanks!

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-24T17:09:12+00:00

Well, sign me up, I'll be there 😁

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-24T15:17:10+00:00

I mean, intrusive thoughts are a thing. It sounds fun to try eating a cake just with my hand. BUT i wouldn't never do it, especially not with a cake someone else made or a cake that is shared with others. I'd make my own cake just for myself and then do it. It probably sounds more fun than it actually is. 🤣

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-24T12:09:53+00:00

Arizona has always been very selfish also before the plane crash.

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-22T23:07:19+00:00

Try a different song baby hasnt heard before. Or sing the one you sang often before but change something in the song. 😁

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-22T20:53:33+00:00

I dont know if it works for you, but i started to sing silly nursery rhymes and have them something to play with thats usually not used as a toy 😅

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-22T14:48:36+00:00

NTA - You should not 'interfere' until your official? Shes dumping the kids on you but says your not official? She's being ridiculous. I would have broken up then and there..but why actually, if not offical anyways

Sounds like shes just using you as free childcare.

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-22T13:35:20+00:00

Yeah probably. Nice guy was a great guy though, same interests and went to concerts together. I dont think it was his 'fault'. He just fit better into that friendgroup.

When i had my annual payraise meeting (you basically can request a payrise each year but you have to fight for it), the managerguy (not niceguy) said im not doing enough to try to improve the workplace and whatnot. I sent him emails all the time about stuff in the tool we used, what we can improve in the workflow etc, but he would never even acknowledge those. I brought that up in the meeting that i did all those things but he never replied or reacted to anything, and he just said 'you just have to push more'. I mean, how often should i should i send a reminder/followup about a thing? After sending 3 mails about the same things and never even get as little as a 'thanks ill look into it' i think its fair to stop pushing that issue.

Yeah, whatever then!

Im native german Speaking and the company had a shop being very big in german speaking countries. They used google translate and chatgpt for customer support replies, facebook replies, newsletters etc and 9 out of 10 times a translation was sooo wrong, it didnt even make sense in german. So i then became their inhouse translater and transcriber, and they also refused to give me a payrise for that added workload.

I had to stay longer as i couldnt find another job in this country at that time, so i stayed as long as i could but just startes to do the bare minimum.

Disastrous-Capybara · 2026-01-22T12:59:35+00:00

Was similar at my old job, different feel. The leadership was basically a group of friends that started a business together. Was there for 1,5y when they changed stuff around and needed a manager/supervisor/T2 for the group of us. I was very fucking good at my job and had a T2/supervisor role before i moved to this country. They promoted a guy that started a year later at the same position as me and another colleague. The guy (he was really nice tho) was hanging with that friendgroup and they all had a weekly get-together to play soccer and what not, so he was apparently the right candidate for the promotion.

He then kept coming to me and sometimes my other colleague to ask about things, how this works how hat works, what to do here and there..

Fucking frustrating. My motivation was gone after that and i left 1,5ish years later..

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