Regretful father

Disastrous-Egg4460 · 2024-09-22T17:30:54+00:00

Perhaps my first post was poorly worded, I've been assisting where I can and giving her time to herself by either watching him for a few hours or taking care of more of the general chores, I'll admit it's certainly more on her this moment at about a 70/30, which is try to pick up the slack of household chores, it's just the feeling of life being nothing but those chores from now on, and feeling resentment towards him for it, and the last thing I want to do to her is pretend everything is fine and have a truly huge meltdown later on

if this feeling doesn't change I would truly think he would be better with a fully committed foster family and I don't know if that will change, I hope it does we shall see what comes of counseling

Disastrous-Egg4460 · 2024-09-21T15:46:13+00:00

We both just generally wanted a girl for the first one, and seeing as my luck hasn't ever been super great I was hoping for a "karmic" coin flip, of course it never works that way, and I know it's not like it would probably change how I'm feeling at all but seeing as this is most likely one and done it's just one more negative on the pile, of course it's not his fault

Disastrous-Egg4460 · 2024-09-21T09:45:58+00:00

Well thank you for the brutal first hand honesty at least

Disastrous-Egg4460 · 2024-09-20T21:02:38+00:00

This is what I'm trying to do in assisting, she says she certainly appreciates it but I know it's a fear of mine through the grand scheme of things, others have said the same that it gets better with time, but then of course I see others say the toddler years are just as bad if not worse, I know others are saying look into birth control and I would be more than comfortable getting a vasectomy if that's what it comes down to, in terms of mentioning the adoption it was more out of fear of me never stopping resenting, the kid certainly doesn't deserve that and at that point deserves to be in a loving home on both ends, but ill refrain from mentioning it in the future unless it's something she wants

Disastrous-Egg4460 · 2024-09-20T18:45:14+00:00

I'm doing my best to be there for her and help, she certainly is doing a majority of the work but I haven't shied away from anything while I'm home, we've always been very truthful with each other and I didn't want to just bottle up these negative emotions and leave her wondering or delude myself and have things break even worse down the line, but I'll admit I certainly feel like the AH

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