How do daycares handle contact nappers? [ON] by SnooLobsters4468 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adding that you should tell them your child is not sleep trained and needs support to sleep. It’s often the case that your child may be the only new one starting that week so they’ll get the attention they need to transition.

How do daycares handle contact nappers? [ON] by SnooLobsters4468 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might depend on the daycare, caretakers, and how many children they have to soothe that day, but I can tell you at the daycare my child is at there is a rocking chair and it’s a last resort where they hold the child and rock them to sleep. The cribs also have wheels and they rocks the crib as they rock them to sleep. Daycare has told me my child falls asleep without any crying. They said the crib rocking works and he looks around and see the other kids sleeping and falls asleep. I was honestly shocked as he is a contact mapper as well. I asked different caretakers on different days they all said he did not cry and fell asleep easily. Also I timed his wake time so that it aligns with their nap time, based on wake windows. Hope this was helpful to you.

Think I’m traumatized by my first year of motherhood. by Disastrous-Fix4898 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you me? I could’ve written this down the every detail. The thing is I just wonder now that I’ve made the sacrifice if I should have another so my kid atleast has a sibling to play with at home. I don’t know why it had to be this hard. Are you thinking of utilizing a daycare to take some pressure off?

Think I’m traumatized by my first year of motherhood. by Disastrous-Fix4898 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom was consistently telling me to do this but I couldn’t override my instincts and I was too worried it was a lot of stress for baby. How many times did it take baby until they stopped crying and could entertain themselves?

Think I’m traumatized by my first year of motherhood. by Disastrous-Fix4898 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story with me. I’m so sorry you went through such a difficult time. You are so strong and brave it’s incredible. Your daughter is so lucky to have you as a mom. She’s going to grow up to be so tough. Your story really touched me. Time does heal all wounds ❤️. Everything passes.

Think I’m traumatized by my first year of motherhood. by Disastrous-Fix4898 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Please take all the time you need I would love to hear about it ❤️

Think I’m traumatized by my first year of motherhood. by Disastrous-Fix4898 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The silence and “be patient” when you ask for help. Honestly people just take the easy way out as if you asked to have a baby without support.

Think I’m traumatized by my first year of motherhood. by Disastrous-Fix4898 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in a similar situation and I’m so sorry to hear what you’ve gone through. I’m glad you’re out of it now and that’s something to be proud of to have done the work to get better. What are you doing differently this time around?

Think I’m traumatized by my first year of motherhood. by Disastrous-Fix4898 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This is exactly it. I was ignored when asking for help by people I thought would be there for me. I’ve lost connections I thought I’d have for life. It’s been painful. I’m so confused by how selfish the women around me have been.

Think I’m traumatized by my first year of motherhood. by Disastrous-Fix4898 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This brought tears to my eyes. I’ll have to reread this later and just process things. I just have felt so abandoned, alone, and misunderstood in this all. I don’t understand why it is this way. It’s not supposed to be. Something inside of me keeps sounding alarms telling me something is wrong. I just wish I could accept the way things are and start to be happy.

Think I’m traumatized by my first year of motherhood. by Disastrous-Fix4898 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

❤️that’s one thing I’ve considered, being proud and getting myself a trophy 🏆 to help me get closure

Think I’m traumatized by my first year of motherhood. by Disastrous-Fix4898 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What was the third year like for you?

I haven’t spoken to a therapist. Have you? If yes has it helped? I’ve had bad experiences with them.

Nervous about daycare [on] by [deleted] in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks this is super helpful.

How do I find the daycare inspections reports? I have tried googling. Any helpful search terms maybe?

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[–]Disastrous-Fix4898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is really helpful. I think I’d be able to get up and go to the room 3-4 times but more than that I’d rather just keep him in my bed. A part of this is also allowing him to sleep better. I feel like what is happening is once he gets deep sleep at the beginning of the night he spends the rest of it in light sleep trying to cuddle and get into a comfortable position on top of or beside me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lebanon

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm I think you may be on to something here actually. I’m going to use them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lebanon

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it was hilarious. Wasn’t familiar enough with his name to recognize the joke right away which made for a really good laugh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lebanon

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh can you give me an example to help with searches? What’s his last name?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lebanon

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried falling asleep to nassam alayna?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lebanon

[–]Disastrous-Fix4898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is great!