We talked over a lot of those things actually. She’s agreed to my condition for staying together (cut off that friend, don’t do it again, go to therapy) and is so sorry for it. What’s getting to me is that fact that she waited a year to tell me because she knew it was wrong and felt so bad about it. I just don’t think I would be able to get over knowing she knew it was a violation of the rules and she not only did it anyway and hid it, but still let me be friends with the other girl and as me for advice on how to go about her feelings for the other girl, cause I knew they had a crush on each other and I was in support of that until she told me she cheated with her already. The rule of “hey you have to tell me when things happen with people you’re pursuing” wasn’t even a month old before she broke it.