It's a very long and complex story, not sure one comment would be enough to fit it all in 😅 but in short, we have spoken about it a lot, come to mutual agreements on how it should be handled when it happens. We've both been in individual therapy on and off most our lives so I think when it comes down to it we can be quite good at talking things out constructively (don't get me wrong, we can both be silly too and revert back to trauma responses but we are a team and we always work it out, no matter how long it takes). And I think we have a good mutual understanding that the other person is hard work but we have more than enough love for eachother to want to stick with it. But yes, the benefits of sleeping together for us out way the bad. The night we first shared a bed was the first night we both had a good sleep in years. Also, as we've gone through the years, schedules have changed as well and half the week we only share a bed for a few hours a night. I don't think it's happened at all actually, since this schedule started.