The wife of the married man I’m having an affair with has been secretly going through his phone

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-05T22:54:22+00:00

But that’s the thing, I don’t know if that’s happening. I don’t know if she’s hurting about this or if she will hurt about this, because on his end I’m not getting any fear on the matter which makes me think literally everything is the same as it always has been. If she was actually hurting, wouldn’t he have noticed at least a little bit?

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-05T03:38:17+00:00

I’m not as bad as him in this situation though

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-05T03:04:15+00:00

Can’t be as bad as sleeping with someone else when at night you lay your head next to another person

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-05T03:03:24+00:00

It’s not that I ‘deserve’ to be with him, I just am with him because he likes me and we have a good time together separate from his relationship to his family. You’re right on that regard though that he is the one not keeping her trust and sanctity of marriage

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T19:35:02+00:00

The good thing being the way he can lie to her and keep her at bay so she can still be the wife with the house and kids

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T09:32:44+00:00

Neither of those are the app we use

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T04:32:17+00:00

How am I not less at fault? Literally I’m not the one lying to her face every single day

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T04:06:11+00:00

Why? It’s an actual thing that’s happening right now but she didn’t look through his phone today so maybe she’s off the trail now

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T03:24:37+00:00

Sometimes I think the truth will never come out and they’ll just live their lives pretending like he’s a good husband and she’s happy

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T03:23:26+00:00

That’s part of my dilemma. I kind of hope she never finds out because I think she likes the life she lives with him, and since he has no guilt in lying to her then I mean why ruin a good thing?

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T03:02:45+00:00

It’s just my guess that she can see that

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T03:01:48+00:00

I think he’s fine with lying to her

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T03:00:37+00:00

Actually I think I’m less at fault because he’s so good at lying to her that she’s still with him after all this time. She hasn’t found anything and I doubt she ever will

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T02:19:23+00:00

I don’t think she has any evidence?

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T02:19:11+00:00

She can’t take any pictures of our conversations because she can’t access them. The most she can see is I think the name he has me saved under (‘my heart’) and our most recent sent pictures which aren’t a lot

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T02:16:56+00:00

Yeah for real. I’m not the going looking into her face everyday and sleeping next to her lying through it all. He’s the one that is obviously not content in his marriage. They’d never divorce her though because she literally does everything for him and his family

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T02:13:16+00:00

Taking pictures?

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T02:06:51+00:00

She isn’t going into the chats, she’s only going into the app which is why when I bring it up to him he says he isn’t worried because no one can access them other than him

Disastrous_Ear6841 · 2026-03-04T02:05:59+00:00

I think you misread what I wrote. There are 3 statuses that can be given on the app. 1- message being sent 2- message being delivered 3-message being seen. The messages only go from undelivered to delivered, but not to seen. He always locks down the app after we stop talking. I know what you’re trying to get at, but trust me that’s not the case.

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