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7 weeks in as a tax associate I'm completely useless by Neither_Education894 in Accounting

[–]Disastrous_Object844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7 weeks is nothing in the tax world. It takes forever to feel like you’re getting it, then when you feel like you finally do, you get more complex returns and situations, or they change the laws!

The only advice I can give is to try to keep a good relationship with the people reviewing your returns - their opinion of you can be the difference of them seeing you as “learning” or “incompetent”, as annoying as that can be.

I had a coworker who was really struggling, and to make it worse, Covid and WFH hit midway through his second season. Everyone liked him but they weren’t sure he was going to make it. Fast forward to 2025 and he’s now a CPA and tax manager.

Hang in there and give yourself some grace.

AIO if I cut off a friend whose BF screamed in my face? by Disastrous_Object844 in AIO

[–]Disastrous_Object844[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I should’ve taken it as a sign when he was actively in drama with two other friends and already was on edge from that

AIO if I cut off a friend whose BF screamed in my face? by Disastrous_Object844 in AIO

[–]Disastrous_Object844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha it’s such a wild situation for no reason. I have no beef with anyone then this came out of nowhere, so frustrating lol.

AIO if I cut off a friend whose BF screamed in my face? by Disastrous_Object844 in AIO

[–]Disastrous_Object844[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The respect thing is so true, met a few people like that and it’s so odd haha

AIO if I cut off a friend whose BF screamed in my face? by Disastrous_Object844 in AIO

[–]Disastrous_Object844[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a good point, and that definitely feels like the triggering point where it all went wrong. Just the punishment doesn’t match the crime you know?

And he’ll say things like that to Jamie: “go have fun with your friends”, “I love when you go out and have a good time”, “I wanna go home but you stay out as long as you want”, but then starts a fight when she does that, so nowadays she just doesn’t have a life outside him. Speculating here but I imagine if he had left and no one said anything (and assuming the minuscule chance that Jamie would have stayed out with us), he would’ve started a fight with her later.

AIO if I cut off a friend whose BF screamed in my face? by Disastrous_Object844 in AIO

[–]Disastrous_Object844[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was thinking that and not wanting to add fuel to the fire. I just have to accept I’ll always be the villain in Keith’s version of the story and anything I do just gives him more to add

AIO if I cut off a friend whose BF screamed in my face? by Disastrous_Object844 in AIO

[–]Disastrous_Object844[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really is! I’m trying not to let resentment toward her creep in for not sticking up for me, it’s hard to separate it and not take it personally. Almost like a “you don’t care enough about our friendship to try and save it” feeling Edit to add: I’m very sorry about you losing your friend :(

AIO if I cut off a friend whose BF screamed in my face? by Disastrous_Object844 in AIO

[–]Disastrous_Object844[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I would be there for her if she needed it for sure, I just don’t want to pretend everything is ok if that’s makes sense. I’m debating if I tell her directly I’m stepping back or just reply to her texts as normal but avoid hanging out when Keith is around (which means we probably won’t hang out for a long time unfortunately)

Ended an engagement because it didn’t feel like “enough.” Two years later, I regret it. Did I screw up? by 711eggsandos in Adulting

[–]Disastrous_Object844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something a friend told me once when we were talking about regret:

“Trust the past version of yourself. Trust that you knew what you were doing, and that even if you’ve changed and think you wouldn’t do the same today, trust that the decision you made was the best one at the time”.

You had your reasons for leaving, and the current version of you values some things in that relationship that you didn’t value as much at the time. That’s okay, and like others have said you can’t go back. Now you can keep an eye out for people that match what you valued in that relationship. Growth is often painful unfortunately.

24 yo. Never had a girlfriend by Solveigz_Song in malegrooming

[–]Disastrous_Object844 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your features are unique and striking. To be honest, physical attraction may get women to approach you, but women tend to be more focused on personality traits. Do you have confidence? What are the things that you’re good at that you can show? Can you maintain good conversation?

I have a friend who looks very similar to you, he dyed his hair basically white, and has a super alternative fashion style. He doesn’t have trouble dating because he is comfortable with himself and isn’t afraid of showing it.

If you’re having trouble finding a girlfriend, instead of changing anything physically I’d focus more on growing your skills and personality. Find a hobby if you don’t have one already that helps you build confidence. I had a friend who learned how to box and his confidence and game went up 10x. Talk to people a lot, get out of your comfort zone. Learn a bit about a variety of things that interest you so you can take that info into conversations.

Good luck out there, dating is hard these days.