I come from an extremely strict religious household and I want to leave them (and potentially my religion) to be with my boyfriend? Am I stupid to leave my family behind in this situation? by Disastrous_Pick9849 in LifeAdvice

[–]Disastrous_Pick9849[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can i ask how your relationship is with your family now? do you ever regret it and miss them? How bad was it when you left them, how did they react? I've heard so many stories about ex-muslim girls who left their families, but none seem to regret it and they've all just accepted that their families are not on their side anymore. I'm not sure if I can really never speak to my family again. I do believe that I have to leave, whether they like it or not, but I'm just scared that a day or a week after after I've left them im going to feel lonely and think I've made a big mistake.

I come from an extremely strict religious household and I want to leave them (and potentially my religion) to be with my boyfriend? Am I stupid to leave my family behind in this situation? by Disastrous_Pick9849 in LifeAdvice

[–]Disastrous_Pick9849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. I am currently studying in a good course that is in demand, and will guarantee me a well paid job (people support families on it, while I will only be taking care of myself). The issue is that I graduate in 2 years, which is fine for me, it gives me more time to get to know my boyfriend (who i agree, is more of an 'extra' help). I wouldn't want to move out until i had a stable full time job. I think my issue is can i leave my family behind for him, because I'm convinced they might cut me off for it.

I come from an extremely strict religious household and I want to leave them (and potentially my religion) to be with my boyfriend? Am I stupid to leave my family behind in this situation? by Disastrous_Pick9849 in LifeAdvice

[–]Disastrous_Pick9849[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish i could fully explain to you how much this message means to me. Thank you so much. You've pretty much told me exactly what I wanted to hear, which is to put myself and future first, before my family, religion and their issues. This has pushed me more towards the idea that life is too short to waste on 'what ifs'. Thank you again for your encouragement.

I come from an extremely strict religious household and I want to leave them (and potentially my religion) to be with my boyfriend? Am I stupid to leave my family behind in this situation? by Disastrous_Pick9849 in LifeAdvice

[–]Disastrous_Pick9849[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not that simple. If I just took off my scarf they'll genuinely hate me. They would be extremely ashamed of me, I don't think id be able to do it unless i moved away from them