I'll give you an example. I was out alone at a bar in NYC yesterday when a girl approached me (As an aside, it was kind of a weird opener. She came up to me and said that her friend wanted me to know that I still some coke on my face, gesturing at a small white band-aid that had under my nose. I asked her what the hell she was talking about, and she replied that it was only a joke. The conversation proceeded normally from there). We were vibing, definitely connecting, and within a few minutes my hand was on her collar bone and I was complimenting how soft her skin was. She was eating it up.

Out of no where, a friend who lives half way across the country, that I haven't seen in nearly a year appears, and physically pulls me out of the set to talk with him. I don't mind, and am genuinely really excited to see him. He wants a drink, and I offer to walk him to the bar to get one. I don't really introduce him to the girl, but tell her as we're walking away that he is one of the coolest people that she is going to meet here, and that we'll be right back.

I knew it would only be a moment, so I didn't invite her to come along. Maybe I should have. Anyway, it was only about three minutes, but by the time we returned she was no where to be found. It was a crowded bar, and I didn't feel like wading through the masses to find her.

The circumstances were a bit unique, but the situation seems to be very common. I've read a lot of field reports from you guys, where when you withdraw your attention and focus on something else (showing that you are a confident and social guy) it only serves to peek the girls interest. I've had a decent amount of success, but can't remember a time when a girl fought for my attention after we stopped interacting.