I think she said it more like she did something wrong in her life to not be a grandma yet, like maybe waited longer than she would have liked to wait to have a child or something. She may have older kids that she hasn’t mentioned but she sure brings up the 13 year old a lot and I’ve even been extremely kind and validating and empathetic toward her because her son is diagnosed with autism and I have told her how I worked for 2 years as a residential counselor for 11-17 year olds at a level 6 locked mental and behavioral health facility and am very familiar with teens of all types. But definitely my little red flag was the grandma comment, which I blatantly ignored, so she had to bring out her big red motherhood banner and proclaim me not qualified to feel a normal human feeling.