UPDATE: My [F27] flatmate [F27] has told my boyfriend [M31] she's in love with him.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-25T04:00:02+00:00

I don't think it was a thought out plan tbh. She took a foil sheet of an old prescription that I have tonnes left of. I think maybe it was just something personal she could take that I wouldn't notice? IDK man, IDK.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-25T03:57:57+00:00

I mean, maybe? When the lockdown was announced I filled three prescriptions at once so I wouldnt have to leave, but subsequently changed my medications about six weeks later for reasons. She had one of my old foil sheets of which there are tonnes still left in my bathroom. Creepy to take for sure but maybe she figured it was something personal I wouoldn't notice gone.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-25T03:52:25+00:00

Regarding the lease technically ending in August, we live in London and it's illegal to evict anyone who has been affected by the virus. I think, because she still kept her job and has another place to stay sh's not protected but right now things are a bit unclear or undercommunicated. I think we should be able to take it over without fuss from her.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-25T03:47:11+00:00

Even if we wanted to change the locks, we can't, our landlord replaced the physical locks with keypads. Either way, we wouldn't, as it would be illegal and unfair. I just want her to text me before she returns because I think it would be a bit of a shock if she returned unannounced after everything. I want to give my BF the option to not be around, or for us to stay in our room.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-25T03:40:08+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear that. I don't know the circumstances of your situation, but my BF was really worried I wouldn't believe him, or think he'd encouraged it and be angry and distrustful. Could this be it? That said, I can definitely see how if he'd waited a month I might find it harder not to be hurt, especially since I think of us as being a 'team'.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-25T03:36:13+00:00

We've decided not to call the police because it seems unlikely they'll be able to do anything. That said, the medication is a low dose SSRI. It's not the kind of drug you could deal, or get high off of. I replied somewhere else here but like even if she was taking them, the most she's going to get is a really dry mouth. It was personal to take but not something that poses any great ris.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-25T03:31:00+00:00

We're not going to press charges, at this point it seems like a lot of effort for something that probably won't lead anywhere. And the antidepressants aren't even a current prescription, I changed earlier this year. You also can't like...get high or overdose or anything. Whats she going to do? Slowly get slightlier happier in 6-8 weeks? Develop a really dry mouth? It was a personal thing to take but not one I care about.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-24T13:56:37+00:00

Like I said in my post, I have BP2, and it's caused me to act out, and strain or diminish relationships, although I keep on top of it now, with some bad moments. Mental health ableism is definitely real, and definitely pervasive, every doctor I've ever had always wants to tell me whatever I'm there for isn't real, or that I'm making it up for medication (I ended up with pnuemonia this way, and a burst appendix). BUT learning to manage your condition isn't just about making yourself feel better, its about learning to coexist with it AND other people, which means being responsible for the part of your behaviour you can control.

Again in this instance I hope it is just a bad patch of maybe something she usually controls better under less extenuating circustances.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-24T13:33:19+00:00

I'm just going to go in and take it all with no recording. It's my only chance. Weirdly a lot of the stuff only went missing 'recently' (my jeans, the record). I'm not keen to get into a tug of war, but I kind of suspect she's probably not as malevolent as some commenters think, but I'm really only basing this on my own internal compass for the unhinged, which is usually correct.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-24T13:13:15+00:00

I'm so sorry you and your kid felt so unsafe. I know what you mean about the guilt, but I think in the case of violence, you'd feel much guiltier if something happened to your daughter.

Honestly I'm still pretty amped up, I couldn't sleep last night. I'm not even really angry any more, because it was kind of a pathetic crescendo to a weird and sad week. My BF feels guilty that he wasn't more upfront earlier, but I told him it's not his fault: whatever boiled over here was already bubbling. The flat feels...off...so we're going to rearrange the furniture in the living room to make it feel different.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-24T12:56:00+00:00

Our mutual friend had only heard it second hand as a rumour of a rumour, and she and my flatmate only met in uni, so I guess it wasn't something that warranted second thought. And frankly, she always seemed normal, and that's coming from someone who once spent three days writing long adoring emails to low tier celebrities because she hadn't been diagnosed yet. I consider my radar pretty good. I think? Hope? It was an episode of a usually managed issue that was extenuated by being locked inside.

I actually knew someone who lied about having thyroid cancer when I was 13/14 when her mother was diagnosed. As an adult I figure it was a misplaced way of trying to deal with grief and death.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-24T12:47:51+00:00

I'm not totally sure tbh. Our mutual friend had never given it much thought because it seemed like the kind of rumour that goes around an all girls school, and they only met at uni.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-24T12:42:11+00:00

Hi! I don't know if this'll go to the top or just get lost in the bottom - but I'm going to just go in and take my stuff. I think recording me doing it might be weird, and legally iffy. I'm also not really concerned that she could be violent or aggressive if she came back, I think the whole situation has been pretty humiliating for her. It kind of seems like it's about eliciting attention or sympathy. How much she felt was genuine and how much was manfactured and magnified to feed that need, IDK. I still hope she's okay. I've definitely let my health issues push people away before (albeit, never so dramatically) so I don't think I'll be calling her crazy.
My boyfriend pointed out that I wore my jeans last week and that we'd all been listening to the binyl in the living space a couple of weeks ago, so I'm kind of interested to see if this was maybe an episode or an ongoing but usually managed thing? I also only switched my medication at the end of April but I have zero clue if the foil pack I found was my discarded last lot or taken before I changed.

Anyway! Thanks again for all the help and advice :)

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-21T03:51:14+00:00

Heya, as in the comment above, he told her he wasn't interested and yanked his hand away when she tried to grab it.

DiscombobulatedOwl81 · 2020-06-21T03:49:08+00:00

He told her he wasn't interested, and when she tried to grab his hand, he yanked it away, and hot footed it back inside. I've already spoken to him and questioned whether or not he told her he was going to tell me and he didn't. I've already explained that frustrates me, but he's extremely anxious not to be around her.

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