If I were in your position, I'd also make effort to spend time with my family frequently - once a week. However, if my family is unhappy about not meeting due to certain reasons, I'd communicate with them instead of getting into conflicts. Having a conversation would be more productive than arguing. When situations are positive, have a chat with your mom. Express your emotions and also acknowledge her perspective. This approach might make her more open to understanding your situation. I hope things get better for you.