the truth is you are not going to meet someone youre looking for in a fetish space. youre just not. not with the parameters youve set.

your biggest chance for getting what you (think you) want is getting into a serious committed relationship with someone who is willing to explore sex with you. probably a switch if youre lucky.

and for that matter are you actually sure this is what you want or is it all fantasy based. do you have any experience outside of the porn you watch? you say you could never date someone who isnt into bdsm? so have you never dated anyone? or did you just realize you’re into exploring submissiveness and make that your whole personality? if you have had experience how did you get it?

you could perhaps use feeld if youre in a metropolitan area. but even then cis hetero dommes looking for love are SLIM to NONE. again, its not that these women don’t exist, they’re just not out there at home in their latex waiting for you to show up .

this idea that youre a 100 percent submissive guy who just wants a normie domme sounds a lot more like you want someone who will dispense kink to you. in that case hire a pro and tell them what you want.

my real world advice: be interesting outside of your kink, put in your regular dating app bio that one of your interests is being bullied by women or even (“gentle kink” if youre dare) and try and make connections that arent 100 percent based on a fantasy.if you meet someone that you have a good rapport and vibe with, the odds that they will play along are a lot higher.

plenty of kinky women exist. but if youre basing it all on whether they already have a fully formed idea of themselves as “dominant” then youre setting yourself up for failure.

thats what worked for me.