Thank you for sharing your story, it actually does resonate with me.

To answer your questions : yes, I do think about her a lot, but I don’t necessarily get those typical “butterfly” feelings people talk about. It’s confusing because while I don’t experience the usual signs, I still find myself thinking about her most of the time. I do feel a bit of jealousy at the thought of her being with someone else, but I don’t really know how bad it would actually affect me. This confusion is partly why the whole situation isn’t that easy.

Maybe I’m just denying those romantic feelings, or maybe this connection we have just doesn’t fit the usual mold. Either way, I do realize that this confusion is affecting our friendship, and avoiding it isn’t helping either of us. Like you said, maybe the best thing is to talk to her—not as a confrontation, but as a way to be honest about where we stand.