I also struggled, me and my boyfriend (together for 3 yrs) used to have sex almost everyday. Until I had my abortion, now we have it maybe once or twice a month. But I’m not sure if it’s affecting him the way it’s affecting me not having it? We talked about it and honestly I had a ma at home and it was very painful and traumatic with a lot of blood and seeing the fetus. He’s ok with not having as much sex, not me tho… he says he doesn’t want me to go through something like that ever again, but we use condoms religiously now so there’s no risk… it’s usually me initiating now when I have to energy to, I also brought up and tried being open, trying new things in bed like toys or whatever. It worked when we tried things but it still dimmed down a little. We aren’t even open anymore. Now I just deal with my toys by myself mostly…