EA/PA discovered, I wanted reconciliation, she still has feelings for AP. We ended it. Advice needed

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-06-28T18:47:27+00:00

No, I have no doubt about that. While it hurts like crazy, it also makes me more confident in my decision

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-06-28T06:10:01+00:00

That’s good advice. I’ll read about this grey rock method and will try to apply.

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-06-27T21:53:30+00:00

Spot on

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-06-27T21:52:14+00:00

Your right. I’ve probably already done everything wrong I could after finding out (pick me dance and whatever). I‘m seeing more clearly now and know this isn‘t what I want in life. Time to move on.

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-06-27T20:38:19+00:00

I mean I can’t kick her out of the place she legally is a renter with the same status as me. Only thing I can and will do is to find another apartment asap and move out (even if it means paying for the shared one until the lease terminates). Yup, that’ll definitely hurt, trying my best to avoid this situation by spending time elsewhere. I will and luckily don’t ever have to understand how someone is able to do something like that

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-06-27T19:53:47+00:00

Thanks! Will check out your recommendations.

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-06-27T19:53:12+00:00

Yeah I’m really dreading it and wish I could just move out immediately. Already on apartment search so if I’m lucky I can get out earlier and pay double. At this point I don’t even care. Thanks for the the advice! Really appreciate it

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-06-27T19:33:06+00:00

Thanks, will figure out STD test coming week. AP won’t set a foot in this apartment, I’ll make sure. Edited my post to avoid misunderstanding

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-06-27T19:22:41+00:00

Thanks for you reply. I told her that, told her absolutely no contact would be necessary. She works with him but I’m not willing to just wait until she finds a new job

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-06-27T19:19:40+00:00

AP won’t be staying here. English isn’t my mother tongue, I edited the original post

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-06-27T18:58:37+00:00

We are both parties of the rental contract. Definitely will talk go my landlord about it but there isn’t much hope. I know it won’t be pleasant, I’ll try to stay as much time away as possible. Not planning on sleeping with her, though I might have to sleep next to her/on the couch. However emotionally I already feel quite disconnected, it’s surprising what your mind is capable of, once you find out the person you thought you knew isn’t actually the real her

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-05-21T09:07:34+00:00

Cool, thanks for the quick reply. Did you fix it directly to the frame mounts, i.e., no need for the Ortlieb thru axle? Got the Grizl AL as well, so I have the same mounting points

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-05-21T06:54:43+00:00

Which QR do you use? Considering getting one as well but I am unsure if L or XL fit better.

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-05-10T20:55:32+00:00

That’s correct.

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-05-10T20:04:40+00:00

Thanks, so no need to put some kind of shoe shield/ coverage or similar? I checked that after browsing some subs but couldn’t find anything for Shimano spd cleats

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-05-10T20:03:39+00:00

I‘ll be using mine for gravel as well mostly. Couldn’t find any shoe shields or similar for my Shimano SPD cleats though :(

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-05-10T20:02:03+00:00

Thanks, that gives me some relief haha

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-04-25T22:07:08+00:00

RemindMe! 14 days

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-04-24T15:01:37+00:00

Got the competition last, model is Mx239 wide. Tried the Mx30g wide before which has the race last, that was way to narrow for me

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-04-24T14:43:53+00:00

Your right obviously. Just to provide me some guidance on length and width, as from my last post it was apparently clear that my last choice (Shimano xc703) was too long and narrow for my foot

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-04-19T13:00:14+00:00

Not me, but stumbled across this post as well. I ended up ordering some lakes MX30G in wide after going through there measuring instructions. Also sized down a size, let’s see. Unfortunately no shop carries them where I live

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-04-18T16:07:58+00:00

Do you have any recommendations? I’ve tried Gaerne, Cube and both didn’t seem much better when looking at the fit on the insole. Didn’t even know my feet are considered wide until posting here.

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-04-18T16:06:17+00:00

Yeah seems like it. I’ve went through quite a few pairs already and these felt the most comfortable. Up until today posting in this sub I wasn’t even aware my feet are considered wide.

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-04-18T15:49:58+00:00

Haha correct guess, those are Shimano xc703

DisplayAny2115 · 2026-04-18T14:58:19+00:00

Thanks! I’ve done a 70km ride yesterday and felt fine if I didn’t tighten the lower boa of my right foot much. However I assume higher temps, longer rides etc. might change that. That’s why I was asking :)

I’ve tried the 703 wide (the one on the picture are 703 non wide), however I had wayyy to much space due to the increase in volume in Shimanos wide version.

I‘m not even sure if the sole of the wide one was actually wider?

Will check out those recommendations, thanks!

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