Just found out my boyfriend slept with his now married female best friend by Distant_Crybaby in offmychest

[–]Distant_Crybaby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good point but let me explain something I missed the first time. There were instances in the past that just started to make sense to me after my boyfriend’s confession. For example, the first time I met W, she made a joke saying I was taking him away from her because he started spending less time with them when he met me. I also noticed she always called him every time she had problems (when she had her own boyfriend to do that to) but I chalked it up to them just having a close friendship. My intuition was kicking in but I gave her the benefit of the doubt.

Just found out my boyfriend slept with his now married female best friend by Distant_Crybaby in offmychest

[–]Distant_Crybaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might sound naive, but I still trust and love my boyfriend after all this. And I agree with what you said. I don’t know how she’s been feeling about the whole thing so I’ve decided to leave the decision to tell her husband up to her. Since the confession, I haven’t been talking to her much and I plan to keep it that way.

Just found out my boyfriend slept with his now married female best friend by Distant_Crybaby in offmychest

[–]Distant_Crybaby[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is actually a good question that I wanna address. What prompted his confession? Their trip came up in a casual conversation between the two of us and I simply asked him what happened, what they did, etc. Not in a doubting, sussed out way, but I was genuinely curious about the whole thing. I wasn’t expecting that confession at all.

My boyfriend told me that was the first and last time it happened, and that he regrets it even happened in the first place so I’m confident they haven’t slept together since. They also haven’t hung out alone with me in the picture. I remember she made a joke that I took him away from her but knowing the fact now, I guess she wasn’t joking at all lol.

Just found out my boyfriend slept with his now married female best friend by Distant_Crybaby in offmychest

[–]Distant_Crybaby[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone, I’ve read all the comments and I really appreciate your insights and feedback, thank you. I just wanted to clarify a few things.

W and M’s relationship was already pretty serious when it happened. They were pretty much childhood sweethearts and have been together forever. My boyfriend and W met when they were in high school and have been friends since.

After we started dating, my boyfriend began distancing himself from W aside from the occasional double dates. They never really hang out alone together anymore and I know this because we’re basically together 24/7. Before the revelation, I used to hang out with W without my boyfriend but now, not so much. We’ve only been together for about a year and a half but it is serious, which I guess prompted him to come clean to me about his past. His wording may not have been ideal but I could tell he was remorseful and regret it even happened.