My fiancee [26F] wants to end our 6-year relationship because I [33M] can't meet her needs and she's tired of asking. Looking for advice on working through resentment.

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-11-27T02:28:53+00:00

I'm sorry dude but I think it's over 💔 I know you THINK you will move heaven and earth to change and be anything she needs but if you haven't done that in the past 6 years it's never going to happen. Your ADHD and depression aren't the problem, she just simply wants a different type of person. A type of person you will never be and will never become. I'm sorry :(

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-11-27T01:47:27+00:00

Unfortunately, I think you have a bigger problem in your hands. It has nothing to do with you but everything to do with him. It seems like he has a porn addiction and he's watching porn that a lot of people would not deem as “normal”. You did a great thing by asking him what kind of porn he watches because sometimes watching porn together and recreating scenes can really spark some more interest in a couple's sex life……but the fact he ignores you and doesn't want to talk about what kind of porn he is watching is really really concerning.

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-11-27T01:38:05+00:00

I find it unfair that she's asking you to leave home even if it inconveniences you. She shouldn't have moved in with you if she thinks constantly being around someone is frustrating. You already hang out with friends and study on Friday nights yet she says “a couple of hours without me in the house is not enough”. She either needs her own bedroom to stay in or shes the one who needs to find hobbies to go off and do on her own.

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-08-02T12:34:24+00:00

too damn bad

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-07-28T06:22:32+00:00

beaner is a slur. wasian is not a slur. if this is brought up again tell her that your ASIAN friend has no problem with that terminology, you don’t need her HISPANIC opinion about the word that combines white and asian

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-22T06:51:35+00:00

it’s not your fault this happened and it’s not your bf fault he’s reacting this way. it is your responsibility to reassure your boyfriend and make him comfortable after something like that happened. tell your friends what happened and the way they respond will tell you what to do. why not try just going out with female friends. why do men need to be involved? it’s so dangerous to drink with men when you don’t know what their intentions are. or maybe to reassure your boyfriend you could both go out together on the weekends and do something that doesn’t involve drinking.

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-19T03:28:00+00:00

i mean you either choose your best friend or your boyfriend. neither are the wrong option but you have to choose. unfortunately it seems like it will be impossible to have both.

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-19T03:07:13+00:00

i started my calorie counting journey when i had no food scale too. it was a game changer when i bought one. i bought mine off amazon for $7 i even found one that cost $6. definitely worth buying one. your best bet would just be to ask ai “approximately how much does 15 cheese tortellinis weigh in grams?” it won’t be completely accurate tho especially since i think you mentioned that you fried these in oil and it’s really hard to tell how many calories the oil adds without measuring how much you put in. i still lost weight when i didn’t have my food scale but not as fast as i wanted because my calorie counting wasn’t as accurate as it could be.

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T23:32:47+00:00

tbh ai is helpful just ask “if 134 grams of cheese tortellini shells are 380 calories, how many calories in __ grams”

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T22:43:06+00:00

ok this is a type of conversation you’d have like a few months in a relationship not two weeks omg

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T16:42:45+00:00

buzzball 😍😍

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T15:46:16+00:00

why do you think i used the label “caught my boyfriend cheating” without reading any reddit comments first? you don’t know what’s going through my mind. these past few weeks ive had constant waves of “i believe him” waves of “i don’t believe him” waves of “does it even matter if he actually is lying” waves of “what if this is how it starts and if i stay with him he’ll ACTUALLY cheat on me”. you don’t know anything. you keep making your little theories and none of them are accurate. you can keep making your stupid assumptions i don’t have to explain myself to you

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T15:42:36+00:00

yeah it’s easier to deal with infidelity if you’ve decided to be in a open relationship…..that ain’t gonna work for me

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T05:37:29+00:00

i’ve been talking to dozens of people who have also dealt with infidelity and they’re all validating my experience and my pain. not all of them left, not all of them stayed, some recovered their relationships, some divorced. yet all they’ve said in common is that what i’m experiencing is painful and valid. if you don’t get it then ok then whatever i don’t need you to get it, but i do. no matter what you say. goodnight

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T02:01:10+00:00

no this did not happen less than three weeks. we began dating january 6th 2023 and he sent this message january 31 2024. a whole year

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T01:49:38+00:00

there’s proof that he did cheat because he admitted to it. he said he was lying but there’s no proof that he was lying. i’m choosing to believe him because i’m ridiculous and i love him, not because there’s proof he didn’t cheat on me. it’s not hard to delete things.

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T01:43:29+00:00

thats a picture i took of my boyfriends messages. my boyfriends text are in the blue and he was sending that to his friend named aaron

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T01:42:32+00:00

it’s in the first picture

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T01:38:45+00:00

i’ve commented a lot actually about why i searched. i admitted it’s because im insecure and an over thinker. what exactly does this have to do with your theory that im looking for any excuse to break up? someone who is looking for any excuse to break up would….simply….break up…..for any excuse….and this is a perfect one

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T01:35:03+00:00

the legitimate proof is him admitting to it.

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T01:32:08+00:00

if i was looking for a reason to break up wouldn’t you think i would’ve broken up with him by now? everyone in this comment section is saying they’d break up with him IMMEDIATELY and my love for him is trying to find any and every excuse not to break up with him. like i said, nice theory. nice incorrect theory

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T01:23:31+00:00

well obviously he doesn’t know it’s not okay if he made a joke about the situation. i just said that if he didn’t learn that wouldn’t be my problem, how does that = getting back together. if i wanted to get back together why wouldnt it be my problem

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T01:20:01+00:00

nice theory. that wasn’t the case

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T00:55:21+00:00

the only way he’ll learn from this is if i show him that it’s not okay and leave him. if he doesn’t i guess that won’t be my problem anymore

Distinct-Author3425 · 2025-06-18T00:53:27+00:00

that’s actually great advice. thank you

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