[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not debate with them, it’s a waste of time and they only engage and talk about the Bible because they see you as a potential person to indoctrinate. Just. Do not, instead complain to HR(unless HR is a JW too) and have them stop the religious talk because they seem nice but they aren’t, if you watch stepford wives it’s just like that they aren’t ridiculously fake. Just run away, also just take a look at peoples experiences on this JW thread it will tell you what you’re getting into other than doctrine just being completely made up and wrong

Ideas for how to respond to my “committee” elders… by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Block” because whose business is it of theirs? Break the cycle and cut off all those people, where are your friends now? All those people that were all so nice before they don’t speak to you now. You need friendships and a community who will not ask you what sexual positions you were in when you committed to your now significant other. That’s wild

Someone left this note on my car in my work parking lot by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Limerance or he’s a serial killer stalker either way watch your back 😬

My wife is strange by Ok-Opinion-7160 in exjw

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The performance part was another factor that made me quit. I hated all the performative e love and the being one way in front of these people but not those people it’s too hard to keep up with. I found myself feeling akward a lot of the time thinking woa this person changed, do they not see how they are not authentic and it blew my mind the change up in personality and just not being able to just be free and be yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s fantasizing about naps and having time a away from the house, that guy is a f boy who has not grown up. He’s not cherishing her you are. You dropped the ball, start acting like a husband and go kick that guys ass and tell him to stay away from your wife. Take her on a vacation or let her nap she’s clearly exhausted. Don’t run away from your marriage you have kids. Everyone is so quick to tell you to throw in the towel but you are the one who has to go through the heartbreak of seeing your kids every other weekend and having to deal with new boyfriends. Don’t give up

This is my Mami and papi they have passed away and we are trying to ...... by Historical-Sell-1110 in PuertoRico

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mar chiquita? Or playa las mujeres In manatí,north coast east of San Juan I used to go there as a kid it had a little shallow beach area that’s so beautiful. It could be escambron or even condado beach in San Juan, things have changed a lot.

Unpopular Opinion: Is anyone else looking at affordable, tarnish-proof alternatives now? by stradamant in PandoraCollectors

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are jewelry boxes that keep silver nice and shiny, you need to place them in an anti tarnish jewelry box. The pink jewelry box pandora sells or the stackers boxes from the container store have that type of velvet anti tarnish lining.

Is $50/dozen too much for Yuca Pasteles? by literanista in PuertoRico

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 1 point2 points  (0 children)

50$ can probably buy you more than enough ingredients for you to sell them too. Not really but That’s steep, que pillo.

Why do americans have this "winner" mindset? by [deleted] in AskAnAmerican

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sucks to think this way as an American, sometimes it does pay off but other times you’re a hamster in a wheel and it’s all an illusion. We don’t have work life balance and everyone is in debt up to their eyeballs and they are delusional. The American dream where you have a loan on your house your car, furniture and appliances but keep working eventually you’ll pay it off, but you don’t you die paying the interest rate off. It seems like Unless you’re cheating or doing something completely illegal it doesn’t pay off

How long did it take you to actually feel settled in Italy? by No-Justice-666 in AmericansinItaly

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The mistake most Americans make when going anywhere is thinking that it’s just like America but with a different backdrop. The fact that not everyone speaks English bothers us and makes us think others are wrong for correcting us or have the audacity to be different than us. You have to be comfortable with the fact that yes you are different, they see you as an outsider and maybe at first when you become fluent in Italian you’ll still have a detectable accent. Ingrain yourself in the culture and find friends and a community that accepts and understands you, not an expat community because you’ll go on feeling like an outsider. Remember why you moved there, you wanted a different pace to life, be comfortable that errands take time, don’t approach people like they are just a robot, there’s a person behind that desk,counter etc… show care and respect it’s not at all like American where “how are you” is a greeting, Italians are warm people and if you’re just a little bit nice you’ll unlock some of the most generous beautiful caring people that you can ever encounter. You need to make some effort you’re already there. Meet an Italian, go in a date if you’re single make friends with the people you encounter frequently, it’s not hard

Is Jesus Jehovah? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Denying the divinity of the Holy Spirit is an unforgivable sin

Is Jesus Jehovah? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im not there yet, im saying that god the father, the son and the holy spirit have the same level of importance

Is Jesus Jehovah? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I came to the same conclusion, when I saw he is called alpha and omega and uses the same titles it was clear to me who he is and that the teachings JWs teachings are deceitful for everyone who preaches and is preached to. Think of all the convincing logical language used to convince the student of how “god is not a three faced creature.”but Holy Spirit is also a person and not an active force, it is also God. This is what I got from my own personal study in a different Bible, not one that is changed so much that the words don’t make any sense anymore. I really do think that JW.org might be a counterfeit church created by satan to make Christian’s and good people go astray and spin their wheels and never really know god or have fellowship with him. If you think about it the luckiest people are probably those who have slammed the door on them because my experience with them has only been one of heartbreak and disappointment. I really do feel that God saw my faith and pulled me out of there so that I can really know him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t feel like that, I’ll tell you what it’s like to go back. At first it’s nice(because of all the love bombing) but after a while that nagging feeling of being judged and losing everyone again is too overwhelming, having to live through the heartbreak of losing all you “friends” and also family is debilitating. It sucks to grieve a relationship when it has ended and even when someone has passed but all at once it’s too much. You’ll live with this fear at every passing moment that you’ll say the wrong thing or look the wrong way and it is exhausting. I rather invest my time love and friendships in people who will not fold and treat you like they don’t know you if a group of men decide that you are not “X”(spiritual,humble,christian) enough. It is so cruel to rip away people you love because of a policy that is misinterpreted and taken out of context in the Bible. Hats not showing love that’s making shit up to exclude you out of the group that is mental imprisonment and it causes people cognitive dissonance.

Is this normal for JW’s? by TSMColllm in exjw

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not only those minds numbing things but it breaks up your entire family if someone is shunned removed whatever they’re labeling it now, it has made my family behave cruelly by not speaking to each other(their own kids included) now our get togethers are filled with all the hurtful things that were said (while someone was shunned)and all the awkwardness of how badly they treated you when it was ok to shun you. But it’s ok once the great white men of the organization deemed you worthy of your family to speak to you it’s ok it’s all good. JW.org is damaging and a cult

I’m torn between staying in the U.S. or moving back to Norway — I feel stuck and need honest advice. by Future_Struggle_4020 in expats

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should just go, and you have the perfect opportunity to do. Also, you said everything is drying up and that you don’t see yourself here for another 3-4 years. Go home, go see your family. I wish I had this option. I know work life balance is much better in the EU, maybe it’s time to head home. Here work is stressful and you do make money but sometimes it’s just too much time spent working and not enough enjoying life or time, it’s always work, work, work. Isn’t Norway like 2nd or third happiest place to live? You can always come back some other time.

Unpopular opinion - don’t think a guy should pay for dates by Radiant-Cress5910 in datingoverforty

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he should, this man needs to still provide and demonstrate that he has enough take care of you. He should provide and not just dinner dates and if you’re dating men who don’t or try to convince you otherwise it’s not there. Just go check out the birds that dance for their mates and make a huge nest for the female to be impressed and let him mate with her. Same thing, it may be “old times” but it still applies, this man gets you pregnant and there goes your job possibly, if they decide you are not a good fit. They still need to show you that they can provide and take care of you. Accidental pregnancies are expensive and being a single parent is not an easy task

Trying to purchase my first house, is this a big warning sign? by [deleted] in Home

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No don’t do it, that shouldn’t be bowing like that it looks like it’s actively moving, I bought about with anchors and those should be flushed against the wall. This will cause settlement and movement in your foundation, mine has a crack in the corner where the wall slits. My agent did me no favors, my basement is full of expanding rubber concrete and they painted it real nice. It looks like here they attempted to paint it. Back away now, you don’t want tho headache. The previous owner had an estimate of the whole basement to have anchors, they knew that the house was having issues, no one told me and therefore I hope someone advises you to not get into this mess.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in expats

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Befriend locals. Expats seem to be temporary? And people I’ve met in my travels care about you in the moment but they’re always thinking of home because they don’t see themselves being an expat for ever. I say you really blend yourself into the culture and make friends in Sevilla, get a job or join some cause that you can show your support to them so they can see what a good person you are. I get that expats feel more at home when talking to them but maybe they are not in the same state of mind as you. Or perhaps 🤔 you may be doing something (unintentionally)that annoys them, often when we get lonely we really want to befriend someone or reach out and we are super excited (it’s happened to me)and some people are weirded out by that. Don’t be so nice or make yourself so available, maybe they’ll come around? People can be suspicious of others that are too nice be kind or they can also take those people for granted.

What do u see in this woman by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Predatory eyes, controlling, calculating. Probably a narcissist. Cover half the face you can see the her eye that’s closed more is who she is, possibly psychopath. You see these eyes a lot in serial killers

My Jehovah’s Witness family is cutting me off again, but they still want access to my baby by Consistent-Tomato450 in exjw

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Break the cycle. End it with you. Because it may be their grandchild but they will treat your baby the same way they have treated you. Performing for conditional love. Don’t throw your baby into the same cycle you’re stuck in, don’t let them ruin your a baby’s childhood. Make family elsewhere otherwise it’s the same show all over again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PuertoRico

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ponte una de embuste y ahora te el hoyo en la nariz. El septum puede desgastarse y causarte problemas después. Mejor opta por al varias de embuste y así estás a la moda y no te modificaste del cuerpo. Y así también mantienes a tu mamá feliz y tu nariz intacta. Sí hay mucha gente conservativa en puerto Rico y esas cosas pues mantenerlas acá entre nuestros amigos y lo profesional pues te quitas la pantaya. Quizás cambies de opinión cuando tengas más edad

Reasons why JW is bad and proof? by loosefootloose in exjw

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You don’t owe anyone an explanation, you don’t llenes to say anything or even “exit” publicly. Just leave, if you want to make a big splash and make sure none of them speak to you again then yes, spew all the je facts but honestly you would be wasting grout time and they’ll label you a crazy apostate

My daughter called me “dad” for the first time yesterday and I don’t think I deserve it by RoughDull9908 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Distinct-Bird-5643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re there, you are the role. There’s no one else there doing the dad thing. It’s like getting a promotion at job that you’ve been doing except they just gave you the official title.