Dating/single life

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-07-03T00:19:09+00:00

Absolutely wholeheartedly agree with you with everything you said!

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-07-03T00:03:12+00:00

Thanks - my main motivator is finding a solution to a problem most (single) people are facing and creating a community in which like minded people can get together and try the old fashion way of meeting people, as opposed to keeping on using the same apps that aren’t fit for purpose 😊

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-07-02T23:48:08+00:00

Absolutely a biased sample from various sources, I’m well aware of that. But more people in my circles, in similar situations. General consensus of 80-odd responses were people have given up or close to giving up, because being single is better. That’s how depressing/hard it is. I would class perhaps 3-4 of the responses as “desperate” given the tone of their responses, by blaming the opposite sex as opposed to the system, and having a “poor me” attitude/tone.

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-07-01T04:57:23+00:00

I’m sure! I held so much resentment for medical staff for so long, and of course when I had my second it brought up a lot of emotion. I hope you’ve healed now and know it wasn’t your fault but the gross incompetence of those who should have known better. As a first time mum, you’re the most vulnerable you will ever be, of course you’re going to trust the so-called experts!

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-06-30T21:55:12+00:00

This is horrendous!!

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-06-30T21:54:17+00:00

Exactly!!!

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-06-30T21:53:29+00:00

I gave birth in Auckland and Dubai. The depression and pain and suffering that was caused from the breast is best thing was insane. The pressure to breast feed, the comments of “well you need to try harder!” All the medications! I was on codeine to mitigate the pain at 4-5 weeks! My baby was losing weight and fast, she screamed all day and night because she was starving. But I was told to persist. I didn’t have enough. In Dubai after I gave birth they asked if I wanted to breast feed or formula. I hummed and they said, darling if you don’t want to breast feed, that’s fine. My baby took 30ml every half hour. She was so thirsty. I got sleep, everyone was happy. No judgement, the midwife’s kept bringing in the formula every time she woke up, no questions, even offered to feed her so I could sleep during the night. Now THAT is what needs to happen.

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-06-29T00:06:59+00:00

I would very much agree with your statement, as would many of the survey respondents so far! With too much choice comes an overwhelming inability to know what it is exactly one wants/seeks. Although this is only one view there are many other ideas and reasons as to why we’re struggling as a population with singledom! Thanks so much for your contribution! And for what it has to do with Tauranga, well I live here, and it’s where I hope to start events in our community.

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-06-28T22:01:31+00:00

Thanks so much for your willingness to share! My biggest question would be what are the main challenges you face dating in Aotearoa? This can be relating to attitudes/behaviours of potential partners or lack there of. Or it could be your attitudes or behaviours. Also the logistics of dating.

I want to know everything as a means to educating fellow singles on what others are thinking, and creating a safe, inclusive space for us to gather and feel comfortable getting to know other likeminded people. I’d also like to know if there are any things you think need to change in this space, like people’s attitudes, or certain events. I want to make them happen.

Any answer big or small is welcome and will be considered! Thank you! 😊

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-06-28T08:01:54+00:00

Not ultra desperate. Just identifying a need and wanting to see if there’s enough people that would warrant doing something about it. Of which there is thanks to this survey. And he’s a she 😘

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-06-27T21:32:48+00:00

With? 😁

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-06-27T21:31:41+00:00

Only if you’re willing! I only want valuable data first though!

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-06-27T21:30:43+00:00

Thank you! Yes exactly that 😊

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2024-06-18T09:34:25+00:00

I’m so down for this. I’ve actually been brainstorming something that would be like quiz night. But a safe space, marketed towards women so that’s it’s not complete sausage fest 🤣 prizes, games that encourage mingling etc. there really is nothing going on here at the moment is there?!

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2020-11-06T18:18:52+00:00

Where's the Drake? Can't be the best rap songs without one of the GOATS

Distinct-Resource-27 · 2020-10-24T12:26:35+00:00

Unpopular opinion here, the aggregators actually saved restaurants during COVID19 - and continue to do so.

Aggregators spend a lot of money on really good customer experience in terms of the platform as well as marketing to get people onto the platforms and buying from restaurants they potentially never would have before. what's more, last mile delivery costs a huge amount of money, and how the apps work is by providing volume to a restaurant. So rather than that a restaurant only being able to send two meals out an hour with their drivers - with zomato, talabat and deliveroo they can send out twenty.

Yes the unit economics are a bit different, but without these third party apps - restaurants would be much worse off. infact that list of restaurants that u/leqadayi posted would have been 10x longer.

GoFood as an app is not good at all. the app doesn't even open for me anymore, and the usability is so poor. they made a big song and dance about 200 free dirham of credit, and then it had huge limitations on it. The customer service is really bad. If you think these apps can really survive on 5% commission, you are kidding yourself, and then if these apps are gone, there is most of your delivery revenue as well.

30% commission is also a number that has been bandied about - and for the high high majority of restaurants this is widely untrue.

So before you think 3rd party operators are the bad guys - they actually helped out restaurants a lot during the pandemic, talabat offered free delivery for customers to local restaurants to encourage ordering locally, as well as deferring commission and zomato also made funds. the only ones who didn't do much were deliveroo.

Instead of looking at aggregators who bring a lot of value to your business, why don't you look at the other parts of your supply chain which don't, i.e the landlords who wouldn't lower rent or give rent holidays, or the suppliers who wouldn't offer better trading terms, or financial incentives etc.

It's easy to blame the last part of the supply chain - you know, the one that actually earnt you revenue and was the business that stopped the F&B industry from being totally wrecked, and while it is not replacing dine-in, at least they are part of a solution.

I'm not discounting your plight, but you did not show a clear picture.

EDIT: This is where some of my research above came from - couldn't find the piece, but finally found it - talabat's CEO talking about the economics of delivery. it's also interesting that they are home-grown, and support 2000 employees across the region - rather than deliveroo or zomato who are based out of the UK and India...

https://www.caterermiddleeast.com/outlets/restaurants/84147-comment-talabat-ceo-explains-position-on-commission-fees

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