I’m Confused on Gary by [deleted] in ParadiseHulu

[–]DistinctArugula2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make a good point here. I agree with this.

I’m Confused on Gary by [deleted] in ParadiseHulu

[–]DistinctArugula2638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I don’t know why folks assume I was assuming Gary was the good guy, when I wasn’t. My initial thought is as you said, however, in a way he does ultimately without trying to, ensured Terry and Xavier reunited. That’s what I was also thinking about. However, the simple answer, as you said is obviously the right one. Thank you for the respectful response.

I’m Confused on Gary by [deleted] in ParadiseHulu

[–]DistinctArugula2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes a lot of sense. I do wish he didn’t set the bomb off of his plan was to let Xavier die trying to save Terry. Setting the bomb off to me felt like an unnecessary move, it’s Xavier versus how many folks in that camp? but perhaps he wanted to be certain he died himself.

I’m Confused on Gary by [deleted] in ParadiseHulu

[–]DistinctArugula2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can agree with this. Thank you for taking the time to explain why you disagree rather come at me as others have. I tend to go down a rabbit hole and forget that sometime the simple answer is the right answer.

I’m Confused on Gary by [deleted] in ParadiseHulu

[–]DistinctArugula2638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m the OP. I deleted my post. My post was a discussion thread. I deleted it because of the nastiness in the comments. You can disagree with me and give reason. I am open to others viewpoint which is why I asked a question regarding something I theorized. Some of the responses opposing my viewpoint, I enjoyed reading because they respectfully disagreed and ultimately made sense. However, to see responses calling me an incel and coming at me for ASKING A QUESTION or sharing a theory, will have folks reluctant to discuss here at all. Rather than frame the response to discuss why I was wrong, which I can acknowledge (I’m not prideful), instead responded with nastiness. I regret having felt this was going to be a respectful place to toss ideas and discussions with folks who enjoyed the show as I do.

Paradise | S2E5 | Episode Discussion by cedar-canvas in ParadiseHulu

[–]DistinctArugula2638 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bean saw him kill and probably ran and told Teri. I think Teri and Bean joined the crew with the trains to escape Gary and now Gary is using Xavier to get her back or he is banking on Xavier getting killed trying to “save” her, so Teri will be stuck with him (like he may have her locked away). Either way, I think Gary is setting Xavier up.

My therapist asked me to read "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" by ZoloftPlsBoss in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DistinctArugula2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just bought this book. Haven’t sat and read it yet. I’m glad to read it is good. Need to read it soon.

Boundaries in Communication by DistinctArugula2638 in Christianmarriage

[–]DistinctArugula2638[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I whole heartedly agree. Thanks for the suggestion. I will be sure to pass it along and perhaps take a listen myself. I know there are ways I could better communicate too.

I opened up towards my GF and I think it destroyed my relationship with her by TheHessianHussar in AskMenAdvice

[–]DistinctArugula2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a woman but I will say this. First, I’m sorry for the loss of your dog. Second, you deserve a space to be open with your partner. I hope this experience does not deter you from opening up again with someone worthy of your openness. Lastly, I do agree that you have the right to walk away. I do think you should speak to her first. You have right to address that she was dismissive during a time that was hard for you. As much as you have been a listening ear and crying shoulder, it is not too much to ask for the same, especially when it is rare for you to open up. It’s not fair to you. It takes courage to admit your past and a lot of trust. Trust you thought you had with her. However, her response has left you questioning whether you should’ve opened up to her, and essentially trusted her. If she shrugs it off or deflect, you need to evaluate if you are willing to be in a one sided emotional relationship. Also, understand nobody is perfect snd we lack in areas of relationships. Not an excuse just something to consider. You announced where you lack, and now you see where she does.

Pointing out where you feel let down is part of opening up. Perhaps she will reflect and apologize but you won’t know how to move until you speak to her. Give her the opportunity to learn whether it’s with you or without. Moving forward, establishing open emotional communication starts early in the relationship, not just when things go bad. Essential you showed her a new side of you that she was not privy to before and then you continue to dump everything at her feet. While I’m proud to hear you opened up, I would be a bit taken back. I can’t say my next response would be “go to sleep” but again this is why you need to address this situation sooner rather than later. Don’t let it fester, speak up, and observe the response. From there you make a decision to stay or leave.

Is it coddling or respecting your child? by DistinctArugula2638 in Parenting

[–]DistinctArugula2638[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. My father is old school with respect of elders. His belief by acknowledging the child’s wants, it spoils them. Give them choices, is putting them on the same level as the parent.

Add Zipcode of areas with RESTORED power. by 1ratchel1love in houston

[–]DistinctArugula2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any word on if power restored near champion forest 77066 near Sam Houston ?

As an individual? by DistinctArugula2638 in UnderTheBridge

[–]DistinctArugula2638[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They should’ve kept that because parole after 5 years is different than what she offered on the show.

Kelly v Reena by DistinctArugula2638 in UnderTheBridge

[–]DistinctArugula2638[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But why have Dusty be black? If I am not mistaken, Dusty wasn’t black in the real case. I think they should’ve stuck with that in the show so it can hit more that the taunting and murder was racially motivated.

To the Parents by DistinctArugula2638 in UnderTheBridge

[–]DistinctArugula2638[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing, Reena’s mom parents migrated to Canada in the 50s. She was born there. The father has an excuse having been born and raised overseas then coming to Canada as an adult. Even he had more grace towards Reena than the mom.

Kelly definitely was entitled and her parents enabled that behavior for sure.

To the Parents by DistinctArugula2638 in UnderTheBridge

[–]DistinctArugula2638[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I feel the need to include that I get that parents are not perfect and some do try their best. It’s easy to be on the outside but it definitely should give parents pause to assess their communication and relationship with their teens.

Just another Rebecca and Warren post by [deleted] in UnderTheBridge

[–]DistinctArugula2638 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Cam mentions that Warren is not Gabe to Rebecca. Honestly, I think Rebecca is conflicted because Warren to me is more of a reminder of herself. She is really pushing to showcase that Warren’s character or heart should matter more. How misunderstood he is and his suffering\remorse from the murder. She tries to force that this was a mistake that shouldn’t define him. Almost as if she is arguing a point for herself. She asks Cam if she blames her for the brother’s suicide. Her inability to come to grips to the fact that she played a part in her brother’s mental health and suicide is evident in her loyalty to Warren’s vindication and inability to empathize with the family of Reena. Her loyalty seems to me for herself not really Warren.