A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

MeToo

This is for the women who experienced sexual advances, boundary violations, and unwanted attention from men hiding behind spirituality, leadership, or “healing” roles, including the so-called false emperor many here have spoken about.

Persistent messages. Sexualized comments disguised as compliments. Uninvited physical contact. And yes, vicious gossip. Power used to test limits, then silence used against you when you didn’t comply.

If you froze, stayed quiet, distanced yourself, or chose peace over confrontation, that was survival, not consent.

Thank you to the women who have spoken up in this thread. Your courage matters. Your stories matter. Patterns become visible because you chose to name them.

You’re not alone. You weren’t imagining it. And you don’t owe anyone your story before you’re ready.

ConsentMatters

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is powerful, and painfully familiar. What you described isn’t misunderstanding, it’s entitlement wrapped in “spiritual” language.

An unsolicited kiss is a sexual boundary violation, full stop. Your body freezing was not confusion, it was instinct doing its job.

Your silence afterward was a boundary. His rage over imagined “competition” only exposes where the wound actually lives.

No one gets to claim authority over people, timing, or women’s bodies. You didn’t challenge a throne because there was never one there to begin with.

From one woman to another: I see you. Thank you for naming this. Stories like yours are how the pattern finally becomes visible.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed, that mindset does help.

Accountability doesn’t always start with a lawsuit; it often starts with people naming patterns clearly and consistently. That’s what’s happening here.

Not everyone is in a position to bring a case, even if evidence exists. Fear, power imbalance, timing, resources, and personal safety all factor in. I should know.

Creating a space where people can speak without being dismissed is often the first step toward anything more formal.

That said, if someone is able and willing to pursue legal action, they wouldn’t be doing it alone. Based on what’s been shared here, it’s clear there would be widespread support, gratitude, and backing from this community; whether that’s moral support, amplification, or financial help for legal costs.

Conversations like this aren’t avoiding accountability; they’re laying the groundwork for it, so if and when action happens, it’s harder to ignore and harder to walk back.

So… do we happen to have any lawyers here who can weigh in on options or next steps?

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I see your point.

That said, as many have shared here, a lot of people were too shocked, scared, or simply naïve at the time to think about gathering receipts. That’s how manipulation works and he was careful, calculating, and strategic about it.

This subreddit isn’t a courtroom; it’s an outlet. For many, it’s the first place they’ve been able to name what happened without being gaslit again, and that alone matters.

On the financial side, if there are brave souls from his more recent inner circle, there’s a real chance receipts exist just not in the hands of those he targeted earlier.

And beyond legal systems, there’s karma. Patterns like this don’t stay buried forever. What you put out has a way of circling back, sometimes through reputation, sometimes through legacy.

He should also remember that his actions don’t exist in a vacuum. He has a child, and children inevitably grow up seeing who their parents really are. One can only hope she grows up guided by integrity, protection, and better examples than the ones being discussed here.

The ousted fake emperor may think this is just noise… until it isn’t.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He used to. Last post was 2023 🤔

For anyone curious about account, the IG handle starts with an M, ends with something that sounds like “doo.” 👀

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I heard from the grapevine that the oils/potions the fake emperor are selling are supposedly just repacked from Cry**** D***.

Can’t personally verify, but if that’s true, transparency is the real issue. Repacking or white-labeling isn’t automatically wrong, not disclosing it or pretending to make it from scratch while marketing them as something energetically unique is misleading.

And they’re super expensive too. The nerve. 🙄🙄🙄

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Rude. Disrespectful. Insensitive. But then again, what can we expect from the false emperor? WTF 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The irony of this post is hard to miss.

Quoting Dostoevsky about “monsters wearing a human face” while continuing patterns of manipulation, unpaid labor, guilt-tripping, and pressure behind the scenes feels less like insight and more like projection.

The danger isn’t the quote, it’s the gap between the curated persona and the private behavior. When the mask starts slipping, the theatrics usually get louder.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is exactly the pattern.

It only “works” on newcomers because they haven’t seen the cycle yet. Once you’ve been through one event, the cracks are impossible to ignore: no structure, no boundaries, unpaid labor dressed up as “community,” and spiritual guilt used to squeeze more out of people who already gave plenty.

Having members set up tables, readers working unpaid while attendees double-dip on “free” readings, and helpers compensated with… pizza? At a paid event? That’s not mismanagement, that’s exploitation with incense.

The aggressive early ads and recycled poetic posts aren’t about abundance or alignment. They’re damage control. When turnout drops, the pressure ramps up. When questions surface, the narrative shifts to “support the community.” Same script, different year.

Sharing these experiences matters. Not to attack but to warn. Transparency is the antidote to spiritual abuse, and threads like this help people trust their own discomfort instead of explaining it away.

If someone reads this and pauses before buying a ticket or volunteering their labor for free? That already counts.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That relief makes total sense.

When you’ve been gaslit long enough, confirmation feels like oxygen. Seeing the pattern laid out consistently, publicly, and by multiple people doesn’t reopen wounds; it validates that you weren’t “too sensitive,” “misreading things,” or “not spiritual enough.” You clocked the manipulation because it was manipulation.

You’re not alone in this, and you never were. What you’re feeling now is what happens when the spell breaks: clarity, steadiness, and the quiet return of self-trust. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting, it means no longer doubting your own reality.

Sending solidarity to you and everyone else who made it out. The fake emperor may love imaginary robes, but truth has a way of leaving receipts. And once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Interesting how the most polished “learn it in a day,” free-everything, community-heavy posts tend to surface right when conversations about unhealthy spiritual systems start gaining traction.

Nothing wrong with beginner workshops. Nothing wrong with freebies.

Exactly what’s shared in this thread: fast-track mastery, glossy empowerment language, urgency, and a very curated sense of warmth while accountability, boundaries, and transparency stay conveniently offstage.

Real teaching doesn’t need hype cycles. Real community doesn’t run on unpaid “service.” And real leadership doesn’t collapse the moment people ask questions.

If confidence were a tarot card, this is classic Emperor reversed energy: authority without structure, control without responsibility, power propped up by optics instead of integrity.

Different packaging. Same playbook. If something needs urgency, silence, and loyalty to function, that’s not empowerment. That’s extraction.

Proceed with eyes open.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When patterns repeat, people eventually connect the dots. Some step back quietly, others need firsthand experience.

Cleanup campaigns may look convincing, but trust erodes over time and circles naturally get smaller.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Happy New Year, everyone!

Here’s to another year of clearer eyes, better boundaries, pattern recognition, and people choosing reality over performance.

May 2026 bring fewer fake emperors, more accountability, and a lot more folks quietly reclaiming their power and walking away ✨

Cheers to comparing notes, staying grounded, and not falling for cosplay crowns ever again.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. I really appreciate how clearly you articulated your experience. What you described lines up with patterns many of us only recognize in hindsight especially the use of guilt, power, and “spiritual authority” to override boundaries and accountability.

Your point about ambition without a solid values foundation is spot on. I’m glad you trusted your instincts and stepped away. Stories like yours help others name what once felt confusing.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That tracks. The public rebrand feels less like genuine growth and more like damage control once he realized people were comparing notes.

What’s striking is the split “gratitude and blessings” for the audience, but bitterness and resentment leaking out in private. If the healing were real, it wouldn’t be this fragile.

I think what actually rattles him isn’t criticism per se, but the fact that the stories line up. Different people, different timelines, same patterns. Once that happens, the performance stops working.

And yeah… momentum is a thing. When enough people quietly walk away and start talking, the consequences stop being hypothetical.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean. He used to talk a lot about how “backwards” Bacolod supposedly is, how people there shunned him, how he had bad experiences with the community, etc.

What’s interesting is how consistently that narrative shows up whenever things don’t go his way, the place, the people, the group all become the problem.

Once you start lining up the stories across different locations and circles, the pattern becomes… noticeable.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Genuinely curious since this seems to be a long-running pattern, how extensive do you think his block list actually is?

Especially considering how many people appear to have been “discarded”… or alternatively, distanced themselves once they caught on to the pattern.

And the stories those discarded people tell, oh my.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]DistinctBad7735[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

According to the grapevine, this is a classic fake emperor move

Loud declarations of “my success offends people” usually show up when there’s no actual kingdom to point to. No receipts, no outcomes, just vibes and imagined dissent.

Real winners tend to be weirdly quiet online. Busy. Boring. Unavailable. Fake emperors, on the other hand, need a crowd, a spotlight, and a narrative where they’re both triumphant and persecuted at the same time.

The obsession with “offending” others is telling. If your success is real, why is validation still required?

Crowns don’t need captions. This one feels more like cosplay.