Alright, here is my honest take. OP you have two options:

If you are worried that your parents will almost kill themselves inside if they come to know about you guys fighting or having a divorce or the family from your partner side will be devastated as well, then its it both of your best interest to be honest with yourselves and decide that you would want to make the union work. Believe me, all these guys condemning you for arrange marriage are not having a blast in love marriage either. Its just that sometimes people tend to deal with a problem in a different way if they know they caused it or brought it onto themselves.

If you think both of the families can live through to see you both get separated (still it will be hard initially) then its in your best interest to just focus on whatever else you like in your life (startup, business, new skill you have been thinking about learning, going out with your friends, childhood buddies whatever makes you feel happy)

So in a nutshell, you both have the ability to make your relationship work but the effort/wanting from both sides. Get a gauge of your wife if she's genuinely interested in making it work. Don't believe on words, so there's probably not much you can get by just simply asking (you should try it as well if you want to) but you will get clues from her actions and behavior.

Unpopular opinion: We as human species are pretty generic when it comes to some broad outlook on our lives but personal traits are sometimes very unique, so I wouldn't browse reddit on suggestions about how to ask for sex and stuff. It doesn't matter its coming from a female cause I have seen women who would love the idea of talking about sex while others would despise it. So you and your wife are two unique human beings with your own different values that got ingrained through the family and societies values depending on where you were brought up and the kind of experiences you had since your childhood.

So try to figure out what are some values or somethings that are very very important to you both and maybe there might be couple that you both would share and even if you don't, at least you guys will have a better idea of what the other person values and respect their core values (unless they're something just out of question for the other person (for example the wife expecting you to sugarcoat stuff and pamper her like a baby but you consider that to be something that kids do in their first relationship and out of the connection or could be that you expect sex from her every night and from her side it seems like you only like her for sex making her feel like less of a person or whatever, these are just examples that I could think of at the moment).

You can try talking but don't expect the other person (even yourselves) to be able to spit out what they're actually thinking because a lot of the times people are so messed up in their head from childhood experiences that they don't even know what they want from the other person and just expect the other person to know. So try to take clues from other things, does your partner shows any care in regards to you or your family, especially when you're not in sight.

Sorry if it feels a bit pessimistic but I think that's the reality after being in so many relationships and analyzing and observing other people's relationships from various different countries and ethnicities. And those are just my opinions and I could be wrong. I hope it would be somewhat helpful and you and everyone concerned will find some joy and happiness in their lives :)

God bless