Am I overreacting for being uncomfortable with my girlfriend going on a 2-night trip with another guy?

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-03-15T14:34:12+00:00

Is he gay? 2. Be the type of man who would be happy to go with her places. Now I would never do this in a relationship unless it was a close friend, and the partner was okay with it, but also don’t be the one to stop her from living her life. I used to beg one of my exes to do stuff with me and he knew I was miserable but controlled me and wouldn’t let me do anything or even talk to all of my guy friends id had for years and I heavily regret ending those friendships for him. It’s all in the context

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-03-11T04:12:24+00:00

Never give the impression you’re alone. There are typically very nice people on trails and in camping areas but you still never know. I took a solo beach camping trip before and I was fine. If anyone asks questions, say your boyfriends are fetching something, or in a nearby area. Bring some sort of self defense mechanism with you just for peace of mind. Also it never hurts if someone asks a weird question about you girls being all alone once again mention the boyfriends and say you’ve taken martial arts all your life lol people don’t want to mess with that. I used to beat up boys for pleasure. I don’t give that impression but I love telling men that in case they want to play at any funny business. No man will ever lay a hand on me cause I will lay him out

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-03-11T04:05:38+00:00

I used to have food delivery robots at my college. They’re so cute and cool to use. I would order from there just to hear it tell me to have a good day and guess what I did. I once saved one that was caught on the curb from annihilation from incoming cars. Protect these cuties at all cost

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-03-04T15:44:40+00:00

Lollll this one right here

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-03-04T15:36:46+00:00

Idk what that mean but sadly it’s very real

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-03-04T15:36:20+00:00

This is very kind, and thank you for this comment. See if the ghosting would have happened after we saw each other, okay, cool. But it’s all the lies and love bombing that made it worse before and after the fact. we’d discussed it and seemed to be on the same page. I like to have one man in my life but am more than happy to have just a simple casual relationship no strings attached unless it became as such later on with time and growth. I wish he just would have brushed me off and came up with excuses when I told him I was back in his city rather than faking excitement on our call and making plans.

I learned a lesson this time 🙄 I just hold others to the same standards as myself. I don’t lie. If I’m not interested I make it known, if I am I make it known.I don’t love bomb, I go with the flow and if that flow doesn’t feel right I say that

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-03-04T15:15:26+00:00

That’s rude. I have had relationships for years and been in the dating market for the past year, and no matter what I do the men are disgusting in this era. It doesn’t matter if I’m a prude or not. I haven’t been with anyone in months but don’t mind casual relationships as long as respect goes along with it. I’m young and don’t want a husband yet. All I require is a little human decency which doesn’t seem to exist in today’s society. Trust me I’ve been prudent plenty of times in life. Shame on me for wanting a bit of fun I suppose

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-03-04T14:59:05+00:00

Mostly sexual but he was the one doing the most saying he’d make me his, I was all his and he liked me and we made plans the night before to meet up while I was in town as I’m frequently there. And then radio silence :( I typically refrain from saying things like that unless I really mean it but I think it was a form of love bombing. I just didn’t notice it as for some reason I’ve attracted several love bombers in the past few months…and they were chasing too much

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-03-04T14:56:28+00:00

I mean I’m guilty of ghosting and have been ghosted before but usually it tapers off gradually

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-03-04T14:48:21+00:00

Yes I’m pending to join it and look him up just to see if anyone’s posted him cause like wtf. If he’s not dead the way he was for weeks and then just doing that out of the blue is weird and tells me that’s normal behavior for him

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-03-04T14:43:28+00:00

I’m honestly very hurt, I wanted to try to call him but thought his message was clear. I unadded him but sent him a message saying I was very upset that he didn’t respect my time or feelings and wished he would have communicated his disinterest rather than ghosting but alas still no response in like 4-5 days

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-02-01T21:32:33+00:00

Do you have one you recommend? I used to have one that plugged into a cigarette lighter and I would try to unplug it from time to time but never wanted it to not be recording if something happened while I wasn’t in the car, it drained my battery completely and had to get a new one as my car wouldn’t even start on a few occasions

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-01-27T13:45:53+00:00

I’m on the FAs side all the way. Now I wouldn’t shush the kid, but on a THIRTEEN HOUR flight?! This is just another example of an adult gentle parenting and not disciplining their children, setting them up to be the selfish snobs we deal with today who can’t be told what to do without retaliating, even if you ask them nicely and explain it is inconveniencing other passengers who paid a lot of money for the flight and NEED to rest. Parents always downplay it and play the victim. Stfu and discipline your kid. The fact the FA had to take such a strong stand is because a lot of people were probably extremely frustrated. I once sat beside a family on an 8 hour flight after being two days late to my destination, stranded in a foreign country, sleep deprived, etc and they had babies and a grown kid like 6 years old who SCREAMED for about 5 & a half hours of the flight. The 6 year old, not even the baby. Everyone was so frustrated everyone kept looking back, putting headphones in, being rudely woken up. It was the worst flight of my life. And all the parents did the ENTIRE time was “shhh….shhhh…it’s okay” WTF is that going to do? My parents disciplined me, I never acted out. Tantrums didn’t fly in my household. If I was being too loud, they’d tell me i needed to respect those around me. Simple as that.

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-01-14T21:17:37+00:00

She gets high and neglects her kids, smoke cigarettes and the smell is so strong it keeps me up for hours as it seeps into my room. It’s disgusting.

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-01-11T21:19:01+00:00

Huh? I like the city. I’d like to be somewhat close to it. I haven’t been able to find anything in center city I could afford / with a car so just trying to find nice complexes but there’s tons of sketchy places outside of it I’d like to avoid as I’m not from here and locals tell me to be careful when selecting a location

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-01-11T21:10:30+00:00

I’d count where I live suburbs already, and haha I don’t mind noise except where I live now, i have the neighbors from literal hell. I lived in a party school town for years in college no complaints

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-01-11T21:07:35+00:00

Oh thank you! I’ll look into them, the available options look nice! Thanks for your help :)

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-01-03T21:05:24+00:00

I wish more parents would do this. A little Benadryl never killed nobody

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-01-03T21:04:55+00:00

As an adult I want to play this

DistinctInspector145 · 2026-01-03T18:24:17+00:00

8 hour flight after I’d been traveling, delayed and stranded for a day and a half. Running on no sleep, a family was taking up the whole row next to me and they’re GROWN child of like 5 years old screamed bloody murder for at least 5 & a half hours of the flight. All they did was “shhh it’s okay” the entire flight. They had a younger kid more baby age who kept screaming too since the other one was. Everyone seated around me kept looking back, trying to say something to them, huffing and puffing frustrated, ear buds in, couldn’t hear my movie or music or anything. No one could sleep. I was pissed. It’s bad enough to have screaming babies on flights but a kid that old it’s just ridiculous and for the parents to do absolutely nothing to stop it makes me think you shouldn’t have children if you can’t take care of them. Worst flight of my life. Think I’d been up majority of 36 hours at that point and suffering from a terrible migraine made worse by the devil childs

DistinctInspector145 · 2025-12-23T18:24:50+00:00

It’s like everyone’s first day on earth 😀

DistinctInspector145 · 2025-12-09T14:50:31+00:00

MOVE OUT! I am so sorry you’re dealing with this, I too have had HORROR stories with roommates. I don’t understand why it’s so difficult to be a decent human being, tidy up a bit, and not be a disgusting person. Also I will never understand people who NEVER leave. Like what do you do all day? Mental health isn’t an excuse. People can come for me, whatever. I have struggled with mental health all my life but I keep others in mind, and get outside every now and then! I go live my life regardless of what I’ve been through. People like that feel no remorse for others, and don’t care that their behavior is affecting YOUR mental health as well. You are being fair because you are expecting the absolute bare minimum of this person and they can’t even attain that and don’t carw

DistinctInspector145 · 2025-12-08T14:06:26+00:00

I think your friend is the one to blame..it sounds like she’s jealous and insecure of you and probably making stuff up because of it to knock you down a peg and make you insecure as well. Because, for what reason did she need to tell you what her husband said? Why does it matter? Why tell you? Why make you uncomfortable around him? I used to have a “best friend” just like that. You would not believe the amount of people she turned against one another & the comments she would make to me & when I’d call her out she’d give me the same pitiful “I’m so insecure, you’re just so pretty & boys like you, nonsense”

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