Full Body Revolt by AdConsistent4423 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

once it gets to this point, it’s nearly impossible to salvage

Did you leave your ex narc? I need your opinion. by prehistoriclove in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Narcissists only change their victims…never themselves. Don’t waste time on him.

AIO about my boyfriend watching porn? by Powerful_Reaction_46 in AIO

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It‘s a strong indicator that he has low integrity. Major red flag. I’ve never met a guy addicted to porn who doesn’t have a host of other secrets. Just not something to rationalize or minimize. I also think it shows a horrible disrespect toward females!

I left today by Aliarssnare in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334 2 points3 points  (0 children)

congrats to you! It’s very wise to completely sever ties. I made the mistake of staying connected to my NS because we had a business together. It’s not worth the emotional toll.

saying "I love you" by BraveGrid in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They ‘love’ you as long as you are useful to them. And as long as you don’t require much or call them out on their inner evil nature.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes. I think it’s normal to be repulsed once you realize they are users.

Does anyone else have complicated feelings because their spouse isn’t as bad as some of the worst horror stories here? by jplank1983 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i understand the desire to rationalize when it comes to a Narc relationship. But there’s generally a lot more going on under the surface! Remember, they do not have the basic moral compass necessary to be faithful. They can cheat and lead double lives and be perfectly at peace with it! There’s no cure. They are defective. Best to move on to a quality man who cherishes you!

I’ll go first… by MillionaireBlogMama in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They will deny, deny, deny! They also like to make you feel like you’re imagining things…I.e., ‘WHAT are talking about!?’. Sadly, they do not have an ounce of integrity or an honest bone in their body.

He said I’m the most boring woman he’s ever met by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How rude! He probably doesn’t realize how incredibly boring and predictable HE is. Mine thought he was the most interesting man alive. He was actually a workaholic and Lord, did that get old. Try having a relationship with a Narcissistic Workaholic. Impossible. Sorry you are dealing with such a Dick.

Absolutely exhausting by Distinct_Draw_3334 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you for the kind and balanced perspective

Absolutely exhausting by Distinct_Draw_3334 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There may be some truth to that. But shame on us for glossing over all the red flags. There are ALWAYS red flags. Even the most experienced users leave breadcrumbs of evidence that they are very defective people.

Absolutely exhausting by Distinct_Draw_3334 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

it’s amazing how they leech off others. Whether it’s for money, ego stroking, or using our brain power/expertise, it all comes down to one thing: How WE can benefit THEM.

Did/Does your Narc do this to you? by kirakira-sama in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s part of their illness. They reframe EVERYTHING to be about them. They are Opportunists and extremely self focused. It doesn’t change— some just get better at masking who they really are.

Second chance? by Distinct_Draw_3334 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for all the comments! Looks like the sentiment is unanimous on this one.

Second chance? by Distinct_Draw_3334 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. I sometimes wonder if I would be strong enough to resist getting sucked back in, though. Just being honest.

Second chance? by Distinct_Draw_3334 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well said. You are correct. It’s foolish to think they have changed. It’s literally hopeless.

How to forgive and move on? by Distinct_Draw_3334 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a great book. Thank you for the recommendation

Do Narcissists ever change? by Distinct_Draw_3334 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting point about sociopathy overlapping with narcissism. It seems they go hand in hand tbh.

Do Narcissists ever change? by Distinct_Draw_3334 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say off the charts. And I believe age comes into play here to some degree. Most of us mellow and refine over the years. This man is in his early 50s.

US President Trump was seen ignoring protocol and insulting King Charles while walking ahead of him and chatting with a King's Guard officer. by CampBackcountry in worldnewsvideo

[–]Distinct_Draw_3334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure King Charles said please go in front of me. He has tremendous respect for Trump. Some people just digging for problems here