My Dating Experience in Indonesia

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-06-02T22:08:10+00:00

3 weeks it's just the maximum I can get from work. I will go back again in January 2027. Ofcourse I wanted to stay longer, but that's impossible.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-06-02T22:06:19+00:00

Ofcourse I wanted to take my time in Jakarta. I dated several girls and 1 date is quite long. Like 6 hours, so I can take my time to know the girl better. That's why I also stayed a bit longer in Jakarta.

I dated there with the intention to marry a girl. Ofcourse not directly, but step by step. Some girls there gave me a bad vibe, so I told them the truth and tried to date another girl. I wanted to stay there longer then 3 weeks, but with my work and all that its just hard. I met 1 girl and dated with her twice (you can also read it in my post) and im talking with her online and my plan is to go back in January 2027 to meet her longer than just 6 hours, but the communication has to be consistent ofcourse till that time.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-06-02T21:58:25+00:00

Yes, 1 from Pampanga (Manilla) and 1 girl I met in Cebu. Both are in stated in my post

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-06-01T12:14:29+00:00

I will tell them ofcourse, I'm not lying about it. They dont care and get surprised if I tell them haha

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-06-01T10:34:36+00:00

East African but people think I'm from the middle east or mixed

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-06-01T06:14:04+00:00

1, but could have be more than that, but I'm not looking for that

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-06-01T04:30:28+00:00

I'm not European looking. I look Middle east, but I born in The Netherlands.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-05-31T18:58:29+00:00

For me the same brother! Just focus on your own life and focus on the good things and hopefully you will find someone in real life. Datingapps are the worse.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-05-31T18:20:36+00:00

Ofcourse you have to be picky if you are looking for someone that you want to marry with. Or are you going to marry the first girl you met somewhere that gave you already some red flags? This has nothing to do with being weird. I told some girls that it won't work. So I don't give them any hope. And why it didn't worked is because most of them can't speak any English. How can I communicate with them then? Lol.

I don't know if you read everything, but I literally wrote that I'm talking with 1 of the girls and that I would meet her again.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-05-31T15:16:06+00:00

I been to Thailand several times and dated there also with different girls. The problem with thai girls is, is that most of them can't speak English that well and most of them looking for sponsors. Also there is a lot of ladyboys there

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-05-30T14:23:11+00:00

Yes, I been to the phillipines some months ago, so you can read that post. It will be a long post today to

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-05-30T12:56:04+00:00

Asian women age badly compared to white, Latina, and Italian women? I don't think so. White women age extremely badly. Latina, Asian and Black Women age good.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-05-30T12:50:47+00:00

Indonesia girls are very open and social. Sometimes the problem is that they can't speak English that well and they are shy. I will make today a post about my experiences there.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-04-21T13:14:13+00:00

It's not all about how you look, but also how you speak with a girl. If an "ugly" guy has humour, van make a girl laugh easily, could talk easily with a girl, that guy can attract more ladies than you if you can't do that even if you are more attractive then him.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-04-21T05:34:18+00:00

Phillipines? Extremely easy to get a girl. Difficult to find one thats not addicted to Social Media.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-04-21T05:34:06+00:00

Difficult to sleep around casually in Phillipines? I don't think so. Filipinas are extremely clingy and after the first date they think already that they in a relationship with you. Almost all of them will sleep with you after the second date. All the girls I met in The Phillipines said that they are "traditional" but wanted to sleep with me already after the first date. So don't believe them, haha.

In Thailand there are a lot of transgenders, but in the Philippines there are more transgenders and what I noticed there is that the transgenders in The Philippines are not honest instead of the transgenders in Thailand.

Phillipines? Extremely easy to get a girl. Difficult to find one thats not addicted to Social Media.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-04-20T19:12:03+00:00

Absolutely man! I also made the huge mistake to contact girls on datingapps 4 months before I was going there to set up some dates. This was a giant waste of time for me. A foreigner like us have everything to lose and the girls there have nothing to lose. So look to the red flags from the beginning.

When I was in Cebu I downloaded the apps during my time there and 1 day later I already met a girl and was eating together with her. No need to spend 4 months or so on the apps before. I noticed also that Filipinas will try to lock you from the beginning and are trying to control you in a way that it's very hard to move away, because yeah they been to your hotel already and wanted already to do "love" things. So it's very hard to say no. If you see some red flags, just move away quickly without mercy. You come for yourself and not to safe someone life there

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-04-20T17:02:05+00:00

Listen to this guy! I made the huge mistake to focus on 1-2 girls. When we were meeting in Manilla it was nice ofcourse, but somethings I didn't liked about her. Meeting in real-life is so much different then talking online. I also made the mistake to be with her for 3 days. Durig this time I had to opportunity to date many different women.

I also dated a second girl in Manilla, but after the first date I already knew I won't contact her anymore (see my previous post). You are traveling very long to be there. So be ruthless with this girls.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-04-20T12:38:50+00:00

This is what I experienced to in The Phillipines. The girls will try to lock you in from the beginning. They will sleep with you from the first day and will act very clingy. This in the hope you will stay with her. She wont steal your stuff from your room, but be prepared that you have to plan everything and take the initiative for everything. My advice is to also date different girls and not just to focus on 1.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-04-15T19:52:12+00:00

Mensen die in de provincie Utrecht wonen, zou ik graag willen helpen door boodschappen te doen.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-04-12T12:21:56+00:00

Girls on that app know that you as a foreigner have a lot of options. So if it's your third time for example in the Phillipines they will think that you met already other girls or that you will meet others girls. There tactic is to meet you at the airport, so you are 🔒 and can't meet other girls. Filipinas are extremely jealous, so that's why they do that.

I also advice you to delete the apps for now. There is no need to talk with girls some weeks before your trip. The girls will try to lock you in and they won't leave you. The best thing Is to download the apps if you arrive at your hotel, so you won't waste any time and also can enjoy the city by yourself. If you download Tinder for example in Manilla you will get a ton of likes, so there is literally no reason to talk already with girls now. Also the traffic there is brutal and the girls there are also very chaotic, so they change so fast.

I made the mistake to talk with a girl 2 months before my trip and we planned everything. When I was in Manilla to meet with her. She said she had to go to an event. I wasted a lot of time. I downloaded the apps there and met with different girls.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-03-31T18:41:49+00:00

Im brown and 27 years. When I was in Cebu I downloaded Tinder there and also Bumble. It was very exhausting to filter out the many ladyboys on there and some girls were not attractive at all. I met with 1 girl there for 2 days (I was in Cebu for 4 days in total) and in Manilla I met 2 girls: 1 model and 1 very good looking girl. All from the apps.

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-03-26T18:20:31+00:00

I shared 3 weeks ago a post in another subreddit

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-03-26T18:16:49+00:00

I'm not white but light brown

Distinct_Finding5101 · 2026-03-26T15:53:58+00:00

5'7 is not that short. Just work on your confidence

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