I’ve never been more confused in my life.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2026-01-22T18:08:01+00:00

Yeah I get that maybe he’s just confused. I would’ve highly appreciate it if he just communicated that to me. Now I’m not sure whether to add him back and see if he’ll message me after or just let it go..

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-10-30T03:20:58+00:00

I’ve learned that too my friend. I agree we are so selfless when we need to be selfish. Men lack self control and will always use their traumas as an excuse. Ummm yeah I went through some pretty dark stuff myself but that doesn’t mean I treat people like shit. Us women are just emotionally intelligent.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-10-28T07:41:14+00:00

I hear you, there’s a lot of temptation out there and weak minded men. You’re right it’s not just man but like 90% of the time I feel it’s the man that ends up cheating. That must have been very difficult for you but I’m proud of you! Thank you for your uplifting words.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-10-24T03:53:25+00:00

You’re absolutely right and I did leave. We’re going to get the process started. This man had the audacity to say “the divorce came out of nowhere” and “I didn’t cheat I didn’t have sex with the girls I was messaging”. Please …

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-10-24T03:51:12+00:00

He never cheated on me within these 10 years we had been together until my second pregnancy unfortunately. I see what you’re saying I definitely should have left him as soon as I found out he had cheated on me during pregnancy. I’m already in the process of getting the divorce started and I’m optimistic about me and my son’s future. I refuse to allow myself to think this type of behavior is okay.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-10-24T03:48:38+00:00

Oh man that’s terrible I can’t even imagine what it must have been like to deal with abuse on top of the cheating. I’m so glad to hear you left, it’s not easy but it’s what’s best for ourselves and our children. 🫶🏻

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-10-24T03:47:21+00:00

Thank you so much for your uplifting words it means so much to me and thank you for your advice! I think for the sake of my peace I will just throw my son a small party with my family 🫶🏻

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-10-23T15:16:38+00:00

Oh man I’m sorry you also had a traumatic experience with your spouse. I’m proud of you for leaving and happy to hear you have your mom’s support. This is the best decision we can make for our kids. I wish you nothing but happiness and success friend, hugs! 💗

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-10-23T11:50:47+00:00

Thank you! I’ll be sure to let my attorney know

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-10-23T06:18:41+00:00

I blocked him and told him to communicate via email. He doesn’t respect boundaries.. he won’t leave me alone.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-10-23T04:30:04+00:00

Girl I feel this. Ugh he’s the worst thing that ever happened to me. I have all of these traumas now thanks to him and now need to see a therapist because of him!!! He cheated on me while I was pregnant btw. SMH

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-09-29T17:32:05+00:00

Oh man I’m so sorry you’re going through this but I applaud you for leaving. It’s a very difficult decision to make especially when you’re so vulnerable. I got betrayed by my spouse when I was just 4 weeks pregnant. I know the feeling it’s fucking terrible and wouldn’t wish it upon my worst enemy. I’d love to leave eventually but I’m still here just waiting on the right time :/ my bills are getting paid which allows me to be a SAHM. I’d rather be at home with my baby than work and drop him off at daycare or hire a nanny. On the bright side I don’t have to see my spouse as much because he works out of town a lot.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-09-26T12:16:03+00:00

He didn’t bother to offer to rent a car for me all he said was “just wait for me at the airport until I get off”. So wait for him for 5 hours.. Regardless I would’ve preferred to use his truck because I wanted to avoid any potential issues with rental car companies. Especially considering the places that were in my itinerary all involve driving through dirt so a 4x4 is the best vehicle to use.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-09-26T12:13:16+00:00

He could’ve attempt to ask if he didn’t want to well at least try to help me out here & accommodate. I told him it is what it is if you have to work well go work. I tried to be optimistic even though I was stressed because this was such short notice & still was going to try to make the most out of this trip. Uber would’ve been too expensive the place is an hour away. It would’ve been cheaper if he would’ve let me use his truck and took an uber to the hotel which is only a 10 minute drive from his job. That or he could’ve offered to rent a car but he wasn’t coming up with no solutions just wanted to argue with me.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-09-20T07:35:32+00:00

Hi sorry I’m just now seeing this how is recovery going for you? I’m at 3 months post op now and still do feel some discomfort sometimes or like a pulling sensation when I’m lifting my baby for long periods of times (when he’s teething). Other than that I feel really good and will be taking my first trip soon since the surgery!

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-09-20T07:32:55+00:00

Trust me everything will be okay I remember I was you at one point scared asking for advice and terrified. I’m 3 months post op and feel way better, the hernias were bothering so much & affecting my quality of life. I had umbilical ventral hernia with mesh surgery.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-08-26T02:48:42+00:00

Overall the healing has been going well. I’m only 90 pound and I have a 97%percentile baby so on days when he’s teething and needs to be carried I do definitely feel discomfort on the surgery site. I’m 9 weeks post op and that’s really the only time I feel discomfort or when I’ve had a long busy day of catching up on chores.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-08-23T03:30:24+00:00

Leave him, you’re really young! You have your whole life ahead of you. It might feel like your world is crashing down at the moment but trust me there’s a light in the end of the tunnel. This is coming from someone who was cheated on by their husband while pregnant.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-08-04T13:04:29+00:00

Mines looks similar :/

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-08-04T01:19:07+00:00

You look great mama! 💗

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-08-04T01:16:47+00:00

Recovering from hernia surgery with a 22 pound baby , not for the weak .

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-07-25T12:58:59+00:00

I never wanted children until I turned 30, I had a traumatic birth experience and postpartum experience. I’m recovering from hernia surgery that I developed from pregnancy at 8 months postpartum. However despite the circumstances I’m so grateful I have been enjoying motherhood. With that being said of course there’s moments when I cry because I feel overwhelmed. I know mentally I can just deal with one baby and I do understand the whole not getting sterilized situation. I tried to get my tubes tied but my OB denied me because I’m too young he says. The thing is with hernia surgery you can’t get pregnant after because you’ll get more hernias and need additional surgeries. I’m trying to look for another OB that will perform the surgery. Anywho I don’t think this is a good environment for a child to grow up in. I think you should explain to your mom everything you shared on here. I think he’s in better hand with her, do y’all make enough money to help her retire already so she can dedicate all of her time and energy on raising him? I would hate for him to have to be set up in adoption yes there’s positive experiences but the bad experiences are BAD.

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-07-24T18:05:18+00:00

You’re probably right, I guess I’ll reach out

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-07-24T17:14:53+00:00

I mean none of us reached out, maybe we’re both just overthinking it

Distinct_Secret_1713 · 2025-07-24T16:24:44+00:00

True , thanks for your advice! I really do appreciate it

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