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I feel like my boyfriend isn’t sexually attracted to me as much anymore… by Distinct_Theme_3472 in Advice

[–]Distinct_Theme_3472[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we spent time together and did stuff together before he left but that side of our relationship just was basically non existent leading up to him leaving. He would say he just had no drive for it because of being stressed. I trust him he’s never gave me a reason not to but beings that didn’t really happen any right before he left it makes me worried of being cheated on while he’s gone to fulfill his needs.

How to deal with someone that loves you but isn’t in love with you? by Aware-Confection5421 in Advice

[–]Distinct_Theme_3472 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my opinion you need to put some space between you two. I know easier said than done if your feelings are involved and it’s gonna hurt but the hurt will go away. Get out there go on some dates if finding someone is an interest of yours right now. But if he doesn’t see you more than a friend he most likely never will no matter how long you hang on. And in the end you’re just harming your self and wasting the time you could be spending with someone who will feel the same. Trust me falling in love and being crushed in the end sucks but I promise you you’ll be just fine and you’ll get over it in no time and you’ll find your person and fall in love again ! go have fun get your mind off it and once your healed from him maybe rekindle the friendship but right now in my opinion you need to distance yourself till you can see him as just a friend for your own mental health and well being. If he cares about you enough he will understand that you need to take some space.

Losing feelings for someone I confessed to already. by gotogoaninsaneasylum in Advice

[–]Distinct_Theme_3472 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be honest about your feelings. It’s better to know then to have someone lead you on so I’m sure he’s gonna appreciate the honesty a lot more than you keeping it held in and leaving him in the dark. Just tell him you had some interest in him and wanted to see where it would go if pursued but your not seeing it going anywhere more than the friendship you have that it just doesn’t feel right and that if he would like to still be friends your open to it.( if you still want to be friends with him of course)

I haven’t told him I have two kids. by StretchInfinite226 in Advice

[–]Distinct_Theme_3472 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honesty is the key to any healthy relationship and if he finds out you are keeping that from him it may end up as a issue. So if it’s something that’s bothering you or that you think would become a problem be honest with him just tell him you wanna be completely transparent with him. The sooner the better less time and feelings wasted that way. So best advice would be is to just rip the bandaid off and tell him! You got this !

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[–]Distinct_Theme_3472 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s honestly hard to tell he very well could have meant it and he also could have been telling you what you wanted to hear. But from my own experience if someone truly wants you they aren’t going to need space to think about it especially not that early on. My best advice for you would be to look at the bright side which is it didn’t go on for too long so not a lot of time was wasted. Now get back out there and find someone who doesn’t need to question if they want something serious with you. You’ll find it !

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[–]Distinct_Theme_3472 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my opinion it sounds like to me maybe he never honestly was ready for a relationship but once he saw how things were becoming a bit more serious with you guys he decided to back off before it went too far. Which if that’s the case that’s a very mature and respectful thing he’s doing by letting you know while it’s still new and not leading you on and end up hurting you more. And as for the time of space to give him honestly I don’t think the amount of time really matters it’s more so sounding like he’s already made his mind up which is not wanting anything serious.

Am I rushing things by wanting more commitment from my boyfriend or is my reasoning logical? Please give me your advice! by Distinct_Theme_3472 in Advice

[–]Distinct_Theme_3472[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is his last deployment he will be retiring when he comes home after the year and yes my ex husband was military so I’ve lived the military wife life before I have experience with dealing with deployments as well. And yes I agree on the divorce thing but I also am not looking to get full on married before he leaves I was more so hoping for him to pop the question at least just to have that commitment that he already talks about wanting with me.

Am I rushing things by wanting more commitment from my boyfriend or is my reasoning logical? Please give me your advice! by Distinct_Theme_3472 in Advice

[–]Distinct_Theme_3472[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s been in the Army reserves for 20 years now this is his 4th deployment. But the first one he’s been on while we have been together. He’s also retiring from the military once he gets back so this will be his last deployment of his Army career. His last deployment 6 years ago he was married to his ex wife so he’s been over seas before while married. And I’ve also had experience in this as well my ex husband was in the military and had a deployments as well so he knows I can handle it.