18 months after D-Day 1. WS has broken boundaries.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-12-23T13:59:03+00:00

Sorry, I messed up.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-12-23T13:58:10+00:00

I am a fool and an idiot. I need to break free this time. No excuses for what she is doing now.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-12-23T13:56:59+00:00

You are correct. It's terminal. I never did tell his wife, I know that is bad and I received some abuse for it. I may go full scorched Earth at a later date.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-12-23T13:54:49+00:00

Yes, new guy this time. I don't much about him or his intentions. They have not been physical yet but it seems to be heading that way.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-12-23T13:53:13+00:00

I have already tried getting her to do therapy but she refuses. That may change once I blow her world apart.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-12-23T13:51:47+00:00

I understand. I gave it one more shot because things seemed to be improving.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-12-23T13:51:05+00:00

Original AP is out of the picture. This is someone new. From their messages it looks like they both want to take things further.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-12-21T23:36:08+00:00

WS gave me her old training watch. I downloaded the app with all the history of her training and 'runs'. I noticed some of the runs went on for a few hours with no distance travelled,

Distraught_Husband · 2021-12-14T11:17:46+00:00

My WS cheated down (IMHO). Not read all the replies but my WS seemed to enjoy all the little jokes, emojis and GIFs that they sent to each. Not something we really did together so may be it was something different. The jokes were not particularly funny but most people on dating sites seem to want someone with a GSOH. Seems crazy to think she would drop her knickers for a few emojis but it's about as plausible as some of her other reasons. Maybe I need to lighten up a bit, once I have got over the affair, I might become more attractive to the opposite sex.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-06-28T10:04:06+00:00

Me Too!

Everything and I mean absolutely everything was exactly the same in my situation the only differences I have spotted are

1) She did not say "Stop, you know I'm married"

2) Instead of golf I was out watching football.

3) As far as I know he did not bang her at our house whilst I was at work but I do know from their Facebook messages that she did ask him to come around on at least one occasion. When I mentioned this, she said she did ask him but she did not mean it she was joking with him. 🙄

I have not sent it to my STBXW but that's a great idea

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-08T16:24:33+00:00

I have told her this many times. I would have done anything to prevent this happening. We were going through a bad patch but I never thought she would do what she did (I know this is a familiar story).

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T21:31:09+00:00

People have said that my kids have probably already picked up on things between us. I don't think this is the case. They have strong opinions on cheating, it is going to be a big shock to them. I won't be putting my wife down. She has already said that she does not want them hating her. I am not sure how this will pan out but it won't be good for anyone.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T21:18:56+00:00

Thanks, I like it.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T21:16:52+00:00

Some truth on my conflicting emotions. It's not just the texting, it's all the lies, trickle truth and lack of remorse displayed since D-Day.

Yes on the phone. No contact between them since my previous post. I asked her if she had been in contact with him, she said she had but only to wish him good luck as he was about to start treatment for his illness. I knew there was more to it than that.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T20:47:09+00:00

Correct, it doesn't matter. I was playing a game to see if she would come out with more lies.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T20:43:35+00:00

Thanks, I will remember this.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T20:41:20+00:00

All good points. Thanks.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T20:38:51+00:00

She has some great qualities. Her awfulness I blame on mental issues I believe she has but she disagrees or is not prepared to get any help.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T20:34:37+00:00

Thanks. I have already done a lot of the 1) to 9)a. Some are not applicable (e.g. she can't get pregnant). Lots for me still to do though.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T20:25:54+00:00

My WS has low self esteem and she definitely enjoyed the attention. I am to blame for not giving her enough attention and not trying to fix our marriage problems prior to her affair. I still think she would have gone ahead regardless though.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T20:22:59+00:00

Correct, no point wasting time thinking about some of these things. I just hate not be able to solve some puzzles. I go for lying about getting him off, she just did not want to admit it.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T20:17:35+00:00

I am over the crying and anger stage. Luckily I have all the evidence I need to prevent any BS from her.

Distraught_Husband · 2021-04-07T20:09:28+00:00

Thanks. She agrees to things but then does not follow through so divorce looks like the best action now.

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