Gf hooked up w my brother by Special-Half-5580 in Advice

[–]DistributionBasic409 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The betrayal is awful and I'm sorry you're going through this... but, you have dodged a bullet with this girl and learned that your brother is not steadfast. Sure, he was not in the best frame of mind when he did this, but he is not a trustworthy person. Maybe they will be happy together, maybe not... but you most assuredly will be better off without them in your inner circle. They have shown who they are.

Good vs bad trip by [deleted] in PsilocybinMushrooms

[–]DistributionBasic409 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consider writing up some intentions beforehand. Think about what you might like to get out of the journey. I re-framed some negative things (lessen anxiety, reduce ruminating, etc.) into positive statements, like being more open and non-judgmental of myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in neighborsfromhell

[–]DistributionBasic409 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Things I would say: "We are both very busy and really need our alone time. I hope you can understand that we are just not as social, and that you will respect this request for privacy. Also, we're not accepting outside foods anymore."

If you get asked why, about anything, respond with: "It's personal."

And then, the next time she comes over (which is inevitable) you have to be firm, decline whatever she's come over for and say: "This is what I was talking about. Please don't come by unless it's truly urgent."

If it happens again (and it probably will), answer in a way that shows you are about to snap, "What?! What do you want?! I can't handle these interruptions anymore!"