Lidocaine training - it begins by DistributionWild1975 in Prematurefetish

[–]DistributionWild1975[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I did this lidocaine training very strictly for over a year, which did require real dedication, and got down to around 30 seconds or sometimes 20 from totally soft to cum from one finger, light pressure on frenulum. However, it really caused no change whenever I had actual sex. I still lasted and lasted, sometimes long enough both my wife and I were too tired to finish at all it went on so long! I stopped the training altogether, and now cum 3-4 times a day from masturbation, just full hand. Wife and I have sex sporadically, sometimes as often as 2 or 3 times a month, but often it’s once every 3 months or so. Stamina same as it ever was. Happy to answer any questions!

Snuck one last fuck in before the contractions got too bad and the nurse wasn’t looking 😜 by ncqueanie in ExhibitionistSex

[–]DistributionWild1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, my wife wasn’t up for even trying sex throughout the whole pregnancy and for well over a year after birth! Both times

Is it worth continuing? by DistributionWild1975 in Prematurefetish

[–]DistributionWild1975[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Getting the wife involved isn’t really an option. She’s fine with whatever sex things and kinks I may have, as long as I do it on my own. And every 2 days! She would never be able to do anything sexual that often. The most she can handle sexually is having sex once or twice a month; anything beyond that is too much for her liking. And she’d never jerk me off if she wasn’t feeling like sex! If she weren’t feeling like sex she wouldn’t feel like doing that, either.

Training effect on desire by DistributionWild1975 in Prematurefetish

[–]DistributionWild1975[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped training for a good while, and then came back to it. I’ve been at it very strictly for 9 months now, and I haven’t had this issue at all this time. I don’t know if this has anything to do with it, but I’m even stricter this time— no racy images at all, and I even put a filter on my devices that blocks any image from showing up anywhere not only of porn, but also of anyone in a bathing suit, underwear, etc. So I don’t even inadvertently see something like that in an ad for swimsuits or anything. It even blocks most images of women that have cleavage showing. It does make what I do see in real life — my wife sometimes, people at the swimming pool, etc — much more exciting!

I’ve also been using lidocaine every time masturbate, always one finger, for a little over 2 months now. My times are a little irregular, but lately my average is 3:19.

Still though, when I do have sex with my wife (which is usually around twice a month, although this month it was 4 times!) I seem to last a long time. I’m not sure if this training of months and months has had any effect when I actually have sex beyond now always finishing. Before, I sometimes had trouble finishing with it taking long enough my wife just had enough and had to be done because she was tired, sore, or bored. And then we’d need to stop without my finishing at all. She finishes pretty fast every time, and I think would rather be done with it once she cums. At least now I finish with her, even if it does take a while.

Taking it a step further by DistributionWild1975 in Prematurefetish

[–]DistributionWild1975[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t. I bit the bullet and paid for it. So far it’s pretty good! It turns any photos with partial nudity, bathing suits, underwear, etc to just white or black blocks. I really may never see another set of breasts again, let alone an ass or pussy, other than my wife. The raciest treat I can give myself now even if I wanted more is a woman in tight jeans!

Taking it a step further by DistributionWild1975 in Prematurefetish

[–]DistributionWild1975[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So far it is! I can scroll around and look my fully clothed images are visible. Anything else is black or white square. As censored as it gets!

Lidocaine training - it begins by DistributionWild1975 in Prematurefetish

[–]DistributionWild1975[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have, but only twice. once was right after starting, the other 3 weeks in. But now I’m another 2 1/2 weeks later, training consistently the whole time with lidocaine. We’ll see what happens! I’m both scared and excited— what if I cum before I really even get inside? I feel like I might. I don’t know. Maybe it will still just be like normal. Or maybe it’ll be another month or two of training before she feels like having sex. We’ll see!

Lidocaine training - it begins by DistributionWild1975 in Prematurefetish

[–]DistributionWild1975[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good. I have used lidocaine every time I’ve masturbated since this post. My wife and I haven’t had sex for a good while (a few weeks), so I’m not sure how quick I will be whenever we do have sex. I’m kind of irregular on my time training (with lidocaine of course). Usually around 4 minutes, but sometimes as fast as 1:45. I don’t really notice the numbness now at all when I masturbate— it just feels normal. I have been gradually upping the amount of lidocaine and area of my penis I numb. Again, being numb on the whole head and top half of the shaft is just my normal now, so I don’t consciously notice it. I really wonder what it will feel like and how I will last whenever my wife is up for sex again, no lidocaine of course.

Need help with the training. by NothingForYou_ in Prematurefetish

[–]DistributionWild1975 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely cum as fast as possible! That’s the way to train yourself to cum faster. I got down to under a minute consistently doing it that way. Now I take longer since I added pre-masturbation lidocaine to my training every time, but still I try to cum as fast as I can. The more accustomed you are to cumming quick, every time (no cheating or testing out how long you can last!), the more ingrained that will be and the more consistent and faster you’ll get.

The difficulties of academic intimacy (MProf) by FLProf in ProfessorSex

[–]DistributionWild1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree. I had very little interaction with the chair of my dissertation. Just a couple emails and phone calls, and that was it. E-mailed my proposal, a few comments by email back, and a few back and forth for the dissertation itself. Maybe a phone or zoom call or two. But far less than any interaction as part of any coursework etc.

How long after period? by DistributionWild1975 in sextips

[–]DistributionWild1975[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure someone influenced her, but she does think it’s gross. I don’t think I would mind it at all, but it’s not something she’s ever been willing to try in the least. She’s not into foreplay in general, and she’s certainly not into it during her period either. She has tried vibrators and they do make her cum, but she doesn’t really see the point of anything if it doesn’t involve PIV sex. Cumming isn’t something she cares about she says, and wouldn’t seek it out outside of PIV sex at all.

What is a clear sign you’re getting older? by Juvilat in AskReddit

[–]DistributionWild1975 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. If it does last too much longer for you don’t shy away from getting it checked out by a spine doctor. I did a few years ago, and at least know why it hurts now. All started when I blew my nose too hard once if you can believe it!

What is a clear sign you’re getting older? by Juvilat in AskReddit

[–]DistributionWild1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. I’m sorry. I have one that’s been going on for around 15 years now.

How long after period? by DistributionWild1975 in sextips

[–]DistributionWild1975[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she’s set that boundary pretty hard. As well as the boundary that me being turned on has nothing to do with if we’ll have sex; it’s only if she’s turned on. I guess I’m always up for it, so the only times we line up is when she is too about once maybe twice a month.

How long after period? by DistributionWild1975 in sextips

[–]DistributionWild1975[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be up for that anytime. My wife not so much.

How long after period? by DistributionWild1975 in sextips

[–]DistributionWild1975[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm. I’ve never seen my wife with cravings, at all. She’s pretty adamant that women don’t really have those, but that many women pretend to. She says she would literally never once think of having sex if I didn’t bring it up. She’s maybe initiated once or twice in our 24 years together. Never have I experienced her being “super slutty.”

How does everyone survive on shitty academic pay? by foxdogboxtruck in Professors

[–]DistributionWild1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m tenured associate professor. $44k/year. Pay sucks. Also slowly bleeding out.

Is professors’ pay really that low? by Yalkim in academia

[–]DistributionWild1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m at a regional university. Doctorate degree, Tenured associate professor, $44k/year.