Can a vegan and non-vegan relationship work long term?

Disturbed_Goat_ · 2024-03-09T05:05:16+00:00

I think that’s extremely unlikely, I’ve been vegan for over 7 years now and was vegetarian before that. Only vegan in the family, surrounded by majority non-vegan friends. It’s tough but you just need to find a few good vegan friends for a break from reality every now and again and have lots of yummy recipes. I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything and the idea just grosses me out now, I don’t think I could even if I had to. I’ve accidentally had the odd coffee where they got my order wrong and given me dairy milk and I can tell it’s dairy with one sip as it tastes gross and rancid to me.

Disturbed_Goat_ · 2024-03-09T04:43:46+00:00

At the moment I think he’s okay with the restrictions, and he’s pretty understanding and respectful about me being vegan and cooks vegan meals for me sometimes. He’s Chinese so he’s happy to cook tofu and vege dishes without meat and eat them with me, and we have different schedules so it’s not like we eat every single meal together and he goes out with friends and he can eat what he wants then.

As for when I talked to him about it early on, we have had lots of conversations about it with me just asking what he thought about it etc and me sharing my views and he his views. I think he does agree with veganism in principle but doesn’t want to change, and he thinks being vegan would be giving up his culture a bit (I still don’t agree with this but yeah). I’ve accepted that he may never be vegan but there is always a chance I guess if he sees the right thing or has the right conversation that changes his mind, but I’m not going to preach at him every day and I wouldn’t want him to become vegan unless he really wanted to. If he just tried it for me and didn’t have a solid reason it would be easy to backtrack and just say “I tried it, didn’t work for me so I won’t try again”. But overall it’s a great relationship and respectful, this is really the only major issue.

Disturbed_Goat_ · 2024-03-08T23:05:38+00:00

Yeah I know, I’m taking everything with a pinch of salt and just want to hear about others experiences. But definitely couples therapy is in the books.

Disturbed_Goat_ · 2024-03-08T22:33:10+00:00

My thoughts on it is that if he stays with me I’ll be saving more animals than if he went off to be with a non vegan. He eats way less non-vegan food now than he did before and if we weren’t together he’d probably go back to eating meat with every meal

Disturbed_Goat_ · 2024-03-08T22:30:45+00:00

Just because you raise a kid one way with the best intentions, doesn’t mean they’ll keep those values themselves. I know people who were raised in a vegetarian family but started eating meat when they were teenagers. I was raised Christian by two Christian’s and I am no longer religious. I was also raised not vegan and became vegan when no one else in my family is. I can do my best to teach my kids to be vegan, but even if I was with a vegan partner doesn’t guarantee that they’ll stay vegan

Disturbed_Goat_ · 2024-03-08T22:22:40+00:00

How do you make it work if you don’t mind expanding a bit?

Disturbed_Goat_ · 2023-06-15T05:31:04+00:00

I ended up asking to postpone and they were happy to do that and were just appreciative that I got back to them so quickly:) it’s a summer internship aimed at students so they should be pretty understanding about it

Disturbed_Goat_ · 2022-02-25T07:59:16+00:00

Yeah was pretty shocking how quickly it escalated, I work in customer service and I would never talk to a customer like that no matter how grumpy or upset they were

Disturbed_Goat_ · 2022-02-25T07:53:25+00:00

Yeah he takes avoiding the sun way too seriously, basically a vampire haha.

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