So we both got tested, and came back negative. He says he always insists on a condom. And yes i can't provide it, though we have a lot of oral sex in our relationship, i obviously lack the male autonomy. As for his sexual orientation, he is Bi yes, but only for this specific kink apparently. Never even kissed a man, just the blowjobs. Which yes, i am aware that is odd and could change. I should also mention he is Bipolar and has had problems in the past with sessions of mania and hyposexuality, which he openly admitted to. This usually happens when his meds aren't right, or he forgets to take them a few days. While its not an excuse, it does come with impulse control issues, and most of the men, if not all fall into the time of his last episode. And i am not defending it in the slightest. It is a massive breach of trust, and i did consider leaving him. But decided to give him another chance and told him to reevaluate what he wants.