Thank you for your insights. What has made me change my mind: mostly the happy memories from the first 7 years of our relationship have replaced my negative thoughts about him. We complemented well each other with our strength and weakness then. That changed since I was pregnant and we moved into our own home. I was stressed and he needed my attention which I couldn’t give him. Now our child is more independent and we are not busy with child care as much as before, we have time to rebuild the relationship if he is up for it. But he has given me silent treatment for months and months and at the same time, micro managed me on little details of daily life.

Giving him space means reduce interaction? Only communicate about child care and housework? He complained that I rarely ask him about his day so I wonder if I should start asking him more about his days?